Will he change?

[fluffinhell]

I recently posted on here about how fed up I am and how my partner drives me insane. He does have some narcissistic traits, and they are hard to cope with.

I sat him down and told him how I feel, taken for granted, fed up of doing what he wants all the time, sick of his moods etc etc. He told me he understood and he would change...

On sat it was my sons birthday we were having a party. He didn't move off the sofa all day. He didn't help.i asked him to find the charger for the speaker, he didn't, I asked him to put the gazebo up, he didn't (we didn't use the gazebo) he sat there all day while I rushed around like a mad woman!! He kept nodding off!! I haven't spoke to him about it cos now I just feel that all I say falls on deaf ears.

Tonight I had world war3 with my son and I called him crying cos I'd had a blazing row with my boy and felt upset. He went somewhere else for an hr before coming home, why? I needed him. I find out he went to his mums empty house to sort the mail etc when I'd called him in a state!!

Does he really not get how his behaviour seems or is it me?

It's not you. And he will not change.

Yes, he will change.
For the worse.

Run for the hills!

If he does change it won't be for the better. He's bloody useless, isn't he? Is your son his, too?

He won't change
Ltb

Why do you think he will change?

No he won't change. Why would he? He gets everything you give him and has to give you nothing in return

My mum once told me never try to change a man you are fighting a losing battle. She was right

He won't change

He will not change. That's what I have learned over the years (of failed relationships).
He will not change.

No. He's showing you what he's like and what he cares about (and it isn;t you, or your ds.)

To me it also looks like he's just not interested in anything to do with your son.

It's just shocked me that I can sit down and tell him how I feel like a single parent and how I'm doing everything and then he can say he will try and doesn't wanna lose me and on two separate occasions he just isn't interested. Made me open my eyes a bit!

Is this worse recently? Had he always been like this? Just wondering if he could have depression. The not bothering, saying he doesn't wasn't to lose you though but when called on to help, sleeping or retreating into himself. Doesn't strike me as a happy man