How long?

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I'd like to ask those who have been cheated on how long it took before you were able to get over the betrayal? I ask because I'm in the middle of a separation and dating is the last thing on my mind but I'd like to know how long it took others to get back out there.

My exW cheated on me. Once we'd got through the whole charade of her pretending there was a chance she'd go to counselling and try to work on the marriage, I started an OLD profile and started chatting to a few women.

That was about two months after she'd dropped the bombshell. It was, in retrospect, too soon. I started dating someone about two months after that and that was also too soon.

You have to properly grieve the end of the relationship, but you'll have a few false dawns before you get there. Start dating when you feel you're ready but my advice would be to keep things casual for a while, until you know where your head's really at.