In your opinion is this abusive to a child (possible trigger warning)

[Domino123]

Hi,

I would really appreciate your points of view on the following behaviour, would you deem it to be abusive.

Father of daughter aged 7/8/9 repeatedly plays 'trick' on her - when she goes to sit down on sofa next to him he will quickly put his hand out with the palm facing upwards so that when she goes to sit down she sits on his hand and this makes her jump up and away from him.

Similar kind of age father comes home drunk from the pub. It's christmas and there are balloons around. One is long and thin and he picks it up and tells her it looks like a willy.

Also makes comments to older daughter (14) about the size of the breasts of a person on TV and how the 14 year old daughter has bigger breasts than person on TV.

I just wondered how you would view this behaviour?

Just reading these make me feel queasy.

I was abused by my grandfather - until I was 15.

When I was younger - 4 - 8 I think, a lot of the touching was on my arms and legs and happened in full view of other family members.

Bleugh.

I'm glad you're getting support now, OP. I've had counselling as well, which did help hugely, but there were times when the counselling did make me feel worse for a while.

Take care of yourself, and keep being strong!

Thanks tccat, therapy has really worked wonders for me. I'm ok.

Thethought yes my brother sexually abused me, I've often wondered if our father set the tone.

Thank you quitelikely.

Seeingadistance - thanks for sharing that, I'm sorry you've been through this. Really glad to hear counselling helped you so much, it is definitely really helping me.