Some advice please

[runraggedeveryday]

Hi all, have nc so as not to out myself. Not sure what to do. I have 5 children. All under 10. One still in nappies. In September will be down to only one at home with me. Have found out yesterday am pregnant again. Haven't told a soul. I love babies and don't feel like I'm done. But the marriage isn't in the best state and have been trying to sort myself enough to end it. There is a family history of twins so the thought of possibly having 7 kids is a bit mind blowing. I don't know what to do. So I quietly take myself to the doctors for a termination (had one in my late teens and has affected me ever since, can't ever forget) or do I keep it and keep my mouth shut about issues and carry on as we are or do I keep it but do this as a single parent? I'm just after a bit of advice as don't have anyone I can talk to really. I have been taking the pill so don't know how far I am, just had a feeling and took a test

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You sound confused. You want to end your marriage but you're still having sex with your husband. You have five children already and cant face (possibly) another two but also feel you're 'not done yet' on that front.

I'd go and see your GP, find out how far along you are and then decide what it is you really want.

Good luck.

He is emotionally abusive and manipulative. If I don't have sex with him my life is hell and he is horrible to the children. We don't argue all the time. I'm looking at the bigger picture. It's just not right but it's extremely difficult to get out of

And I don't like to think ill never have another baby. Doesn't mean that the prospect of 6 or possibly 7 under the age of ten is appealing!

Your children shouldn't have to live like this, and neither should you . What he is doing is illegal and it sounds like it borders on rape. I think it will be hard but easier than being abused for the next 18 years! And your older dc can be of some help with the younger ones, and they all will be much happier and more well adjusted if they don't grow up seeing you being abused as the norm. Really hope that you can find a way.

In that case, Your focus needs to be on an exit strategy not another child. Sorry to hear you're being abused OP.

Can you contact Womens Aid? Are your parents around?