Why do men do this?

[LottieandMia]

I've found that some men I get into new relationships with try to belittle past relationships I've had and tell me those people were only with me for sex.

It makes me really annoyed. Like they are trying to say that they are the only person I could have an actual relationship with. Even though I have exes I don't regret all my past relationships and I don't appreciate being told those people must have been using me.

Has this happened to anyone else?

How much detail are you giving these guys about your previous relationships? I find it doesn't come up.

It's been my experience that men who say this feel they actually have very little to offer you, so they try to big themselves up by slagging off other people.

They're right, they don't have much to offer, so it's an immediate binning off from me.

Gosh - hang on to this one OP - he is all-seeing all-knowing - might even be God himself.

Or not. He could just be a wanker.

I have never had this happen. If anyone did dare to say this they would be dumped long before I had a chance to even post on MN.

I think Stoic has nailed it.

He's projecting.

Gosh, no of course I don't mean all or most men do this. My thinking is that most don't do it actually. Which is why I'm wondering why it has happened to me twice. But I've also dated a lot of people who didn't do it.

My dd3's father hasn't been a good dad to her (understatement) but I don't think this means he was necessarily using me for sex. That was the discussion. On another occasion I ran into an ex & said hi. Nothing said about him except 'oh he must have been using you for sex'
It's just so rude.

Hi op I have experienced this. One man really hurt me after pretty much ghosting me. At lest one bf since has reckoned he knew exactly what that was all about and that I was used and blah. It's not ok. Actually judging on last relationships isn't ok but I learned the hard way

Yes I've just been trying to get my head around why it annoyed me so much I think. But I can see it's not normal behaviour. It could be projection - I wouldn't rule that out.