Feel so lonely

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Had a silly argument withDH on Friday and he literally has not spoken to me since!

He does this every time we argue, he says it stops him saying something he can't take back!

So I'm sat here all weekend with no one to talk to but the dog! DD stayed at friends yesterday and isn't back until later!

Im actually looking forward to getting back to work so people will talk to me!

I know people are just going to tell me to talk to him but why should I if it's him who is in the wrong? It's like it's me making the effort all the time and I should just accept that is who he is!

Makes me so angry!

My mum and dad were like this for 40 years. Its not good and it's his way of getting you to tow his line

Im assuming your parents are now separated? I'm starting to think I'd be better off on my own!

This would make me sick I think it's u healthy to go to bed on an argument never mind a full weekend of not speaking. I'd either sort the issue out or move on to so
Wine who didn't treat me like this my husband can be stroppy but I couldn't deal with this

Its one thing to walk away from an argument to calm down etc but to blank you all weekend isn't really on is it? If he's in the wrong will he apologise? If not and this is his tactic for getting you to back down then its pretty controlling/passive aggressive

Im 11 weeks pregnant and I just feel like crying all the time. I've just tried speaking to him (asked if he wanted takeaway with me and DD) and he announced he's been invited to a friends for tea so he's going there!

Aww, you poor thing. I hate that kind of passive aggressive controlling superior nonsense.

If you need some company I'm here. Either to talk about it, or just to chat about nonsense.

BTW, you've tried making the first move, been rebuffed me so I don't think you need to make any gestures or moves. You tried to be the bigger person and he just punished for that.

Do you have any music you could pop on to raise your spirits?

That's a really shocking way to treat you - and you're in the early stages of pregnancy, too. People like that should come with a warning light.

It's difficult in your situation but I think the best thing really (if possible) is to actually leave the house. While you're in the house he's happy knowing you're miserable. If you have a "fuck this" attitude and just go out (preferably returning in a few days' time - a few days AFTER he would normally have cheered up) then he's stuck in the house on his own, talking to nobody but having nobody to ignore, either.

Not really an option to leave the house with DD for a few days but I have just been looking at a week away for me and her next month... may book it on payday!!

He has literally just apologized for what he said and says it came out wrong, that he has lots going on at the moment. I asked him if he understands why he hurt me and that he has ruined my weekend and he does seem sorry.

I've told him that this won't be accepted again and he needs to sort his issues out and that I will support him but it doesn't mean I will accept being treated like crap!

I've told him that this won't be accepted again

So real question..... next time he does his "silent treatment", what will you do? What do you mean by this won't be accepted again?

He will be told to go- I've told him he needs to get help if he is feeling low and that I will support him going to the GP and getting that help.

I've never been that bothered before as I've always had plans and have been out of the house anyway.

This weekend has been torture I've told him that. I can't spend my life feeling like this and he won't be making DC's walk on eggshells either!

I will support him because he's my husband but this weekend has made me realize there has to be a cut off!