Sometimes grey stone is hard

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Ex sent me a message, while drunk, which shows he thinks I hold a lot of resentment towards him (while also trying to make a joke)

I really don't - yes I do find him annoying but I have no ill will towards him.

Part of me wants to tell him this however I know that there's no point entering into a dialogue.

I just hope he doesn't say anything about it at handover

But it doesn't mean anything, does it? Throw an insult at you and then be dismissive about it: this is all about him and nothing to do with you. He was just stroking his ego at your expense thinking you are an easy target.

while drunk ... Does not require a response.

If he brings it up, I would be inclined to say, "I don't know what you are talking about." Repeat a la stonewall.

It isn't all about him - as always!

He said he didn't remember sending it

*is all about him

Grey stone is also a mechanism of Fake It Til You Make It. Perhaps you need a "Don't Care Bear" to stop giving him so much head space. Administrative contact regarding the dc only. Everything else hits the Teflon and slides right off, sharpish.

And my prepost disappeared!

I think mumsnet should start making a 'don't care bear' 😀

I don't usually react but I thinks he sees my indifference as distain.

Stop thinking about what he thinks. His thoughts are now irrelevant and Nunya Bizness.