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im confused.it didnt start out as fwb,we talk and text throughout day.i was seeing him for 6months before broaching subject of going "public"to which he was not happy about.so we carry on as is now 8months in i seen 2message previews from dating sites saying "do you want to resume coversation with.." he said the are from before he met me.then out of curiosity i went on site and it said he was last on 5hours previous.he denied this but im now thinking that he has all benefits of partner without commitment.i need to end this dont i...

He's done nothing wrong. You should never assume you are exclusive.

I think you need to bin him off though, if you're not getting what you want from a fuck buddy arrangement

i assumed exclusivity because we talked about it early on.its not about being right/wrong.i need to move on,you are right

So after 6 months you asked about the two of you going steady and he was not happy, that was your answer there OP, regardless of the fact he's still fishing for someone else.

So, yes end it, I'd have ended it after his unhappiness being exclusive.

6 months is a hell of a long time to wait before telling someone that you want an exclusive relationship. Sounds like you knew he'd say no? You should have walked at that point - and it's not too late to do that now. The internet is full of women - when I'm dating, if a man isn't interested in me enough after 3 dates to put other options on hold, then I'm not interested in him.
I'm not talking about declaring we're boy/girlfriend on Facebook, or making any last commitment. Not talking cancelling subscriptions - only hiding profiles. If a man won't hold after talking to /dating anyone else after 3 dates, they're not interested.

When I was OLD, several times when I was in the pre-meet chat phase, I got nice messages saying "date went well last night, hiding my profile while I see where it goes - good luck on here!". And several times they were back a month later.

People get into such a knot about stating what they're looking for. You don't have to wait SIX MONTHS to ask about going public.

Just end this one, and don't wait around as long next time!

thanks for your replies,i kept it very brief and even so got replies stating what i knew already.i have ended it earlier.

Get rid of him. FWB is fine if both are happy with arrangement. But you're not happy. Don't question or second guess yourself, just bow out. Life is way too short to waste with someone who doesn't want the same as you. You could be out there meeting someone who does