Need some positive energy this way please

[AngelHeartt]

Please be nice because I feel really down.

My ex and I broke up not too long ago and we have DC together so we have managed to maintain a good friendship.

Basically he's just got into a new relationship and while I'm happy for him and she's a nice girl too I'm finding myself suffering with so much heartache. It would be easy if I could turn feelings off and he's aware that I still love him but he obviously doesn't feel the same way. I'm not one to her in the way but I don't know why I'm hurting so much.

I'm an over thinker and I hate being an over thinker, but I can't sleep at night because it's playing on my mind so much? I know we broke up before he got into this relationship but I feel like I've lost something really special now, worse than when we originally split up.

I just need some positive vibes here really I think. Maybe a rant to get my feelings off my chest I don't know

Anyone?

Oh Angel, you must be really hurtling. Time will heal all hurt but it's the meantime where the hurting lives.
Because you have dc together, he will always be in your life so you will have to think of a strategy that works for you. I suggest minimising contact as much as you can.

@Materdolores thank you. Will try minimising contact. Need to really break away from him

Big hugs to you OP. Breaking up is hard enough but when its not what you wanted, it doubly hard. Someone you still love finding someone else must be like a stab to the heart. I know its a cliche but time will make you feel better. All you can do right now, is try to minimise your contact with him. Keep as busy as possible and talk to friends/family when you feel down. Its the best way to feel better is by surrounding yourself with people who care. And venting on here too of course.

Be kind to yourself OP. You are doing what we've all done at one time or another: mourning the loss of something special that has gone, will never return, will never be yours again.
It is a perfectly natural reaction to loss and essential that you go through it, feel the pain, acknowledge it even, but equally important to your wellbeing that you don't let it define you and you don't allow it to frame the narrative you create for your future. Learn from it yes; but don't obsess about it.
It is what it is and you have to accept it.
Give it headspace...for now, but understand that you will need to move on at some point.
When you are ready.
Stay strong, be kind and generous to yourself and remember, relationships don't define us; we define ourselves ultimately in how we live our lives and how we try to live the best life that we can.
Allow yourself to express how you're feeling and then, when you're ready, close the door on it.
As one door closes, another one opens.
Always.

The first one was always going to hurt but now focus on you. Make yourself do new things. It will build your confidence. You'll meet new people and you will have something to fill that headspace.