In Limbo

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Hi All

All constructive advice & support welcome

I will try to keep the story brief

My wife has been unfaithful and now unsure what she wants. Came a huge shock!!

I'm confused, in shock and now unsure what I want and what is possible!

Can trust be regained?
Can we fall in love again etc etc etc?

We have been to counselling and will continue to go but both unsure what is going to happen.

We have been told Its early days but we are hardly talking and home life is strained

We have 2 young kids which we adore and love dearly!

I think you need sometime away from her to figure what you want.

I agree with Jane. Time apart can clear your head and help you make the right decision.
Is she remorseful? She should be falling over backwards to convince you to stay with her. If she isn't......

I would think your wants are more important here, take some time away from her to clear your head and work out what you want. She has made the mistake here so doesnt get to decide how things go forward. Put yourself in charge

Op it sounds as though you could do with some time without her to come to terms with what has happened and work out what you wish to do.

Counselling for yourself to help you decide may be a good idea, couples counselling if there is no abuse in your relationship may help you both move forward either together or not as the case may be.

Thanks all

OH is wandering why this has happened and questioning her thoughts! Like “ how can I love hime and then do this to him” etc etc

And asking what was the cause / lack of attention, love, has she stopped fancying me/ being in love with me etc etc

Think were both in some sort of shock!