Seperated for three months too soon for FWB?

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In April, I seperated from my childhood sweetheart after a 16 year relationship. Over the past 3 years, he started to secretly message other women. Some flirty, some just too friendly. Made Inappropriate sexual comments social media and speaking to women at 4am. Basically a whole load of suspicious behaviour that has broken my heart.
I finally have the courage to leave him so he lives at his mums but comes twice a week to see our two dc's. 6yrs and 9 months.
I've met a man online who has turned into the best friend with benefits I could have asked for. In 16 years, (and im only 33), ive never had sex like it. He blows my mind!. Even though we seem to have missed out the friend part, he understands my situation and completely accepts there's no strings attached. Although we sext nearly everyday.
However, my ex has got suspicious and asked me if I'm sleeping with anyone. I could see he was getting emotional and upset. I just ended up saying, 'none of your business '! But he's taken that as a yes and stormed out, looking mortified.
I'm now wishing I lied and said, 'no way', cos it's only been 3 months. I have no regrets but seeing him go slightly crazy has left me feeling sorry for him but also sickly satisfying to see him hurt, same way I've been hurting. Should I just lie to keep him from loosing his temper like that again? And am I rushing things by having a purely sexual relationship with someone so soon? He really worked himself up and even thinks he's been in our bed but he has no idea where I live. Hotels only.

It is none of his business.

I'd just stick to that line, sounding as bored as you can.

If however you are feeling bad about it, because it's only been 3 months and you're still in a weird up-and-down zone, then you don't have to carry on. It's totally up to you.

But if your XP is becoming volatile around you, it will be worth reviewing how contact about the DC is carried out so you are not risk and your DC never see him going too far.

Thanks Chantico. I'm definitely in a weird place, in terms of seeking something with someone just to fill the gap in my life. But my body has needs and my FWB is handling them. Dc's were fast asleep when he went a bit nuts. I just hope he can handle the not knowing a bit better. Silly reaction really, after what he's put me through.

Not too soon at all

Tell your ex to piss off. Everyone knows, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone. As long as no one gets hurt & their are no lies about where things are going, I see no problem

It's none of his business.

"Everyone knows, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone"!! Hahaha! That's one of the best quotes I've ever heard! Feel a whole lot better now TheNaze!!!

If you have emotional baggage then probably not, it will get mixed up, if you are using FWB to dull the pain of separation and an FWB will move on at some point, then how will you feel?
if however you are feeling that your relationship with your OH is totally finished and you are feeling completely liberated then go for it. Your OH will have to deal with it. But expect jealousy if he has an inkling. I have experience of this. My OH was jealous of me seeing other people even though they were in a full on affair.

Emotionally and physically, me and ex are totally finished, although he begs and pleads to come home. He hasn't quite accepted its over. I definitely feel liberated having no stress and tears anymore. But lonely, as expected. He's still very much around because of childcare, living arrangements, finances etc. But I stopped loving him about a year ago but stayed, hoping it would get better.

Happy days (and nights) then. Love it. FWB or friends and lovers as I like to call them are the best medicine :) All the fun without the aggro :)

Always pleased to help OP