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I'm done with my marriage. Mums of young children, please give me your happy endings.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 08/06/2017 03:53

If my husband punching the wall and kicking the door withing a foot of me holding our 3 day old baby weren't enough, somehow staying at my parents (because he is being so unpleasant) and having the toddler wake up at night inconsolable, and now sitting on the single bed, feeding the baby, making sure the toddler doesn't fall out at I can get him back in the cot. This somehow is tipping me over the edge.

He's controlling, and emotionally/mentally abusive. He's like a dark cloud. Negative, draining. I don't know what it says about me that I've put up with it for so long. I won't have my children exposed o it though.

I don't know why I'm posting really. I suppose I feel quite alone with it. And tbh I'm shitting myself about the next months/year. But it will be better, won't it.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 09/06/2017 00:11

Sorry, first post didn't post and now it has.

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theansweris42 · 09/06/2017 08:00

Hope you're okay this morning op.
I'm busy all day today so can't post, I just hope you're feeling strong and can believe your life WILL be better without this stress.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 09/06/2017 10:00

Thanks 42 I'm OK. Exhausted as I ended up awake til nearly 1am and then up with the baby, but I'm OK. The toddler is at Nannys so I'm snoozing on the bed with baby. Husband started up again this morning, he went through the whole performance and only really stopped when I told him I've always said I loved this house and would never leave it, but right now I could walk out with the babies without a second glance. I've also told him that while we are both living here I will not engage in arguments in front of the children, if I tell him to stop/be quiet I expect him to be an adult and walk away if need be.

I've got a way to go before leaving. I could go to my parents but I don't want to so it's a but of a long game. But I'm still playing it.

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Wallywobbles · 10/06/2017 06:24

My now 12 year old DD remembers some of the major yelling sessions her Dad put me through. Mostly after she was in bed. He left when she was 3. The kids hear far more than we like to believe.