So how many DPs /DHs said to you yesterday -'You are NOT MY MOTHER'?

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and as a result get no card/flowers/anything.

always

but did get stuff down walks away and can't join in]]

Yep, got that comment (and a few others besides!)

if dh said that to me id say thank god.
his mother's rank! lol

Yeah and I told him his mother isn't my mother either and I got her flowers, Clarins face stuff and a photo of DD.

He was joking, so I was lucky enough to get some stuff on behalf of DD.

I asked DP id he thought it was 'My Mother's Day' as opposed to 'Mother's Day'. He couldn't answer that one but went on to say why is it always women who go on about this sort of thing. You never hear men complaining he said.

A friend was so sock today when I told her I got nothing that she presented me with some flowers this afternoon (how sweet was that?) but now what do I say to DP. tempted to say they were on my doorstep and must be from a secret admirer.

I would never expect a partner to get me something on behalf of the kids. Call me old-fashioned, but isn't valentine's day the day when you are supposed to be spoilt by your partner?

I got a card from DH saying 'to my wife on mothers day' because my mum is no longer with us and he tries to be nice - he didn;t go to golf even - he has got man flu that being the main reason for him being around yesterday but still he made an effort.

dh said that to me the friday night before mothers day... but after i got equally upset about wanting to feel appreciated TOO as i AM the MOTHER of HIS child... well he was drunk and well, nevermind.

in the end, he did get me a card from him as well as one from ds...

but the row still stings.

Will you be saying to him on fathers day, well youre not my father. It goes both ways!

Actually I am always saying "I am not your mother" usually in the pick your own socks up type argument!

My dh has said that to me, and tbh, I think that's fair enough. I was away this weekend but got back Sun night to find a homemade card and bunch of tulips from ds (12). I didn't prompt him so presume my dh did.

On Fathers Day, I'll prompt ds to make a card/buy chocolate for dh.

IMO the whole Mother's Day think is irrelevant until the kids are old enough to do something off their own back.

I bought flowers for dw and got the card written as if from dd. She also made a card at nursery.

Spaceman - like your response. Will be telling dh that I am not responsible for buying, writing out and posting card to MIL next year on that very ground!

yup...

HD.....
can you start a training school for hopeless husbands please ???

Can I use a big stick to train them with?

Sorry - I got some lovely things; handmade card (done at pre-school), chocs - chosen but DS but paid for by DH, I'm guessing! - and flowers. When I asked DS if they were from him, he said yes, he'd texted the flower lady Think not, at age 4, but guess what he sees mummy doing about 400 times a day

Absolutely
You have my full permission to use any means/weapons available......

Just train the useless lot of them!!!

How are children supposed to know what to do on Mother's Day if their dad doesn't show them?

I think the fact that you have childen too small to realise they are supposed to do something is no excuse for nothing happening on Mother's Day.

When you think how much work lots of women do to bring up children, I think their DHs/DPs should definitely help small children to acknowledge the day - and to also show their wives/partners they appreciate all the mothering that we do of their children!

I had a handmade card from DS (18 months) that I helped him make at playgroup, but DH helped him 'write' in it. I also had a posey of flowers from church. It cost practically nothing but meant the world to me.