So ..MY MUM...and MEN!!!

[Beetrootccio]

She met a man 3 weeks ago and is now planning n moving in with him!

Sounds like a solid plan there...

Was it your mum with the arse that went back to his ex?

is this the mother with the scary 'might-go-back-to-my-ex' emailer guy?

that is the one - this is a new guy!!

Rebound insanity or just basic insane insanity?!?!

My grandparents met and married within three weeks. They were happily married for over 50 years.

But even so...

ooh dearie then

maybe you need to have a word?

I have but she is behaving like a teenager!

well ??

Oh, sorry... no advice. My mum is too far the other way - wary and set in her ways so she never meets anyone

Where's your mum meeting these men anyway??

How can she move in with a man after three weeks; is she one of these women who need a man in their lives at whatever emotional cost to somehow validate their own existance?.

Hard as it is I would let her make her own mistakes. If she cannot or will not listen to any sort of reason then I'm afraid you're going to have to let her get on with it and be there for her in the likely event it all goes pear shaped.

she has been on her own t=for 20 years.

She is a high powered woman who travels the world for work.

She is obviously mad as well

she has been on her own t=for 20 years.

She is a high powered woman who travels the world for work.

She is obviously mad as well

and she met him online

She keeps saying WE

argh

We will be going to

We are thinking of

FFS! She only met him 3 weeks ago

can't bleive none of you care

oh luvvie

we do care

tell her she can see him but he can't move in

tell her it upsets you as her daughter and you are Not Ready

cry a bit

oh do you think? would taht work?

yes

must be vulnerable

"I have had you all to myself for all these years; it is too big a change for me"

"I really didn't think it would upset me this much but I really don't think I could cope coming to the house"

oh bless her. She sounds as though shes desperate to just be with someone. I would definatley have a word with her telling her your concerns and really make sure she listens properly. She sounds to me like she just doesn't want to be on her own at the moment? Have you met this guy? If not then I would tell her that you want to meet with him as well.

Capp - I will do it'

Yes I have met hom and he is very nice.

do the 'if you really care about each other then there is no need to rush into anything' speech. Tell her to just enjoy spending time with him, but at the same time be able to keep some independence?

Beetroot - must be horrid (I'm buffysmum btw) perhaps you can try the tears with - I'm so glad that you've met someone so nice blah blah blah expecially after what that awful last man did, however do you think you could leave it a while before you move in together I'm just not ready for you do it blah blah blah.

Can you take her out and have a heart to heart over it all?

Fingers crossed that it works out for them - and you!

I have told her what I think - now she has to find out the hard way - god I feel like her mohter

well she will not listen to have wished all theluck and love and leave it at that