To think she's pulling away

[KingLouisa]

Long story short. I used to be close mates with someone but I feel she's pulling away.
examples are

1 she's getting married next year and has a fair few bridesmaids but didn't ask me. We're in a friendship group of 4 and she asked the other 2 not me alongside some of her fiance friends girlfriends

2 she cant have kids and believe me my heart goes out to her. I'm now pregnant but needed treatment. When I told her about our ttc struggles she was supportive but one day I told her i was struggling and she told me not to be a steelhead.

3 she's very non committal about plans and when we meet in a group treats me as a friend of a friend not a friend

For the record I have never once banged on about my pregnancy to her. she seems ok with others being pregnant but never ask me anything about my pregnancy so i told not to talk about it

wwyd?

2 stresshead not steelheAd

Quite often, but changes in life bring about changes in friendships. Some friendships last and others don't and there might not be any clear reason why. That's just the way it is. I think you have two options. One, just let things process as they are and wait to see the outcome, or two, you can speak to her directly and honestly about your concerns. If you both really are friends then you will be able to have this conversation and work on getting back on track. If she is unable or unwilling to participate in examining your relationship, then I'm afraid you have your answer. The friendship is over.

Thanks xx

Re1.

How long would it be between your baby's birth and her wedding?

Could she have thought you may be wanting to be on your own with your baby at that time.

Maybe a baby there on the day would remind her on her day about her own circumstances.

Maybe she'll want her wedding child-free therefore couldn't ask you to be bridesmaid as that would mean you choose between a baby-free day as bridesmaid, or stay at home with baby.

Maybe some of the above is right, or maybe not.

It's always hard to wonder why you've been left out, so sorry you're feeling that way too.

She had no idea I was pregnant when she asked 're bridesmaids and she has asked a friend who is pregnant at the moment and she knew about her so i doubt it's that xx