Advice - friendship

[Coffeegrain]

I've been friends with a school mum for around 5 years now.. had days out with the kids, coffee meet ups, shared problems etc
She has helped and supported me through some tough times which I'm grateful for and I do the same.
I've had a few relationships since my divorce 8 years ago which I don't think she's approved of.. anyway not in them now.
Lately I'm finding she seems to be distancing herself from me and I've no idea why. I get she is married etc but seems sometimes she won't look me in the eye now?
I'm not sure if I'm being sensitive but I guess gut instinct is there. Has this happened to anyone and how do you approach it? I'm not really confrontational..

Asking her if something has changed in regards to her feelings towards you is NOT confrontational. This is what mature adults in adult relationships should do. You could say, "I've noticed lately that perhaps there's something I've done that's upset you. I feel like we aren't as close as we once were and it makes me sad. Is there something we need to talk about because I'd really love to get back to the way things were. You're a great friend and I love you!" Sometimes people need to hear how much you value them, especially when things seem to be going wrong. Perhaps she is going through something in her life that you aren't even aware of and her reactions toward you actually have nothing to do with you. You'll only know if you ask.

Thanks Aqua. I guess I'm scared to do that as I have in the past done that with my mum and there is Denial. I don't want to seem needy. Ok, perhaps I need to make an effort

I know it's hard. But try not to pre-judge someone based on experiences with other people. Your friend isn't your mother. That being said, your friend may be defensive or deny that anything is wrong. Maybe she'll say she doesn't want to be friends anymore. Or maybe she'll be happy you spoke honestly to her and wants to fix your friendship. There are no guarantees, but at least you can try and know you did what you could.