Am I Being Over sensitive

[Lolly34h]

My partner doesn't like me going out without him. I wanted to go see a dear friend on Monday for a cuppa and a chat and he talked me out of it saying Wednesday would be more convenient. So I get up this morning get my children ready for school and say don't forget I'm popping out for a cuppa this morning. He said no I couldn't as he wants to spend the day chilling in bed. I said I can't do that because I don't feel to tough. Early pregnancy symptoms. So he went and took his son to nursery returned and said let's go to bed. I said I'd cuddle but that's it. He has no flounced into the kitchen and isn't talking to me. I'm so sick of not being able to go out alone. And the worst of it is he went out Saturday night and was out for 8 hours and I gave him no grief.

For the love of god, stop letting this useless fuck control your life. You know better than this. Also, I realize it's a huge question, but do you really think it's a good idea to have this losers baby??

Well If he thinks you're a selfish fuck then why does he want to live with you? Can you chuck him out today, maybe get friends around In case he kicks off? You can call the police and tell them you're getting rid of an abusive partner so they have a heads up in case of anything? Might be best to kick him out early morning, then he can present himself to the council as homeless, he's got a kid so he'll get emergency accommodation right away.

Where was he living before?

I assume his son is quite young so he does need to be cared for.It feels like a difficult situation for all the children.

It's your house so you shouldn't be hiding.

He started the argument to stop you going out.

He's a controlling twat and it will only get worse I'm afraid

Yeah he's controlling and unreasonable

Hope you're considering leaving him

Do you have a friend or family member that can come stay with you for a week or so to back you up and support you if you kick him out?

You need to put a stop to this now or you will just get tired of it, never arrange to go out and his work is done.

If you can you tell him that you find his behaviour controlling. If all your responsibilities are taken care of you are free to do what you please and go out when you want. What is going to happen when the baby comes along. You need to discuss that to because chances are he's not going to look after the baby as a way of stopping you going out

Tell him whenever he goes out you never make a fuss or sulk and his behaviour is unfair.

His response will tell you what kind of future / man you are dealing with.

I really hate it when people try and convince an OP to have an abortion. Everybody knows that they are available. If OP wanted one, she would get one. In fact she has said that she does not want one.

OP, if he won't leave then you need to involve the police. It's your home and he has no right to stay there. It's not your fault that he has to uproot his son. This is a situation entirely of his own doing.

Ignore my last post. If you want him out and he refuses to leave sand he has no power over the house, call the police. You can do this without him even knowing they are coming. You've given him notice. He is then trespassing

Have you been together long? Was the baby planned? Was he working when you first got together?

It all sounds very unhealthy and with so many children involved why are you bringing another one into the mix when neither of you work ...

I do worry about his son though. I don't know how old he is but can you just throw him out on the street? Obviously he needs to move out, I have no doubts there but you need to tell him to go voluntarily for his son's sake!

Whats he offering in this relationship? Leave now.

Op I hope you are ok

I had a complete emotional breakdown at my sisters yesterday. Told him to leave. I went out for dinner with my mom and sister and the kids and told him he had to leave. We came home last night and he's promised me things will change he understands what I need now. Agreed to have the tax credits swapped to my account thus morning which I'm gonna let him do. I'm gonna get my ducks in a row so my children ain't left with nothing and Bude my time. He will leave just not until I've got my finances in order first. Feeding my children has to be my priority. He has cried and said sorry. Didn't realise that money was such a big issue for me. I'm so lost and unsure what to do

He slept downstairs and gave me space to think. I'm still totally lost

Let him cry! They're just crocodile tears anyway because he can see his free ride is coming to an end.

Stay strong and don't inflict the controlling cock lodger on your children for one more day.

Well he's fone

What happen OP?

I'm glad he's gone. Are you OK? Do you have people looking after you?