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IPhone help please.....

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grownuplifesucks · 07/06/2017 10:44

Hi, please can someone help!

To cut a long story short..... oh was being cagey with an old phone that he was giving to me, wouldn't let me have it til he'd reset it etc... I just a had a feeling he was being weird and he got all defensive when I pulled him up on it! I took the opportunity to have a look through it when he went out and found loads of emails in spam from dating sites, 6 people have viewed your profile, dear member of dating site etc etc from many hook up type sites. I couldn't get to see if there were any welcome to your account ones etc. He then proceeded to work out how to reset phone so can't look again. I felt sick and betrayed and confused. Could it be spamming?? He does look at porn, which I know, don't feel very comfortable with but I know he does. Could it be junk from there? I then managed to look at current phone briefly and saw his internet history last week was porn sites, but also two references to hook up sites, could the be pop ups? I looked in advance settings and the top two sites for data usage were hook up sites. Is this running in background of the porn? I've searched forums and people have said they never go on dating sites, do use porn, and their advanced settings data usage does show dating sites and they must be pop ups, my question is, how much data would that be using? Minuscule? If it's a pop up can it use a considerable amount of data?? I know I sound snoopy and paranoid and sneaky but history has taught me not to confront without all facts or it's quickly hidden :(( please help

OP posts:
LoveDeathPrizes · 08/06/2017 01:46

Top ones on mine are all websites I've used. Those with no data at all appear to be embedded cookies but all else (generally 60kb) is legit.

LoveDeathPrizes · 08/06/2017 01:58

OP you need to check block cookies. Mine is set to "only websites I visit" but his may be picking up additional cookies.

esk1mo · 08/06/2017 02:32

on mine the top websites are sites i dont recall ever visiting, and websites i visit daily are down at 0.7 for example.

doesnt rule out cheating, but just adding my experience of safari data

Mackan1 · 23/06/2017 14:59

why not make a fake profile on his top site and look for him. i am sure there must be a way to narrow down your search on this type of sites e.g hight, age, hair colour and so on. (never been on a dating website sins like 2006)

doom if it was me make sure you use private browsing and use a 20mins email account :)

BTW i work in IT

Isetan · 24/06/2017 17:17

Go into Settings, Safari and see if the password is saved for the sites, you will need his password if he has set up restrictions.

Isetan · 24/06/2017 17:17

Passcode not password.

HildaOg · 24/06/2017 17:41

It's normal to delete everything before giving someone your phone. It would feel invasive otherwise.

The emails could be from porn sites. If he has a dating profile set up then it could be one from years ago but if you've been married a long time then that means he was probably up to no good during the marriage.

What site was the dating profile (presuming it was that) one from? In saying that, a lot of people join just to nose around so he may not have used it to contact women. Or maybe he used it to chat with them...

The real problem is you don't trust him to tell you the truth and it's driving you crazy.

troodiedoo · 24/06/2017 17:52

I work in dating industry. It sounds like he has registered with a site (could be porn site) but the account has been inactive for some time.

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