'D'H isn't speaking to me

[sooperdooper]

My DH is driving me mad, I'm working away today and needed to be somewhere by 8.30/9am this morning - it wouldve meant getting up at 5am to get a taxi & train so work offered me a cheap hotel & to stay last night instead if I wanted to.

I took the hotel option to make life easier for myself, we have no dc so I can't see why I shouldn't

Before I left he moaned I could've done the journey in a day, and that he did a similar journey in a day and why wasn't I doing the same

Yesterday morning he left for work without saying bye, I text him yesterday (with news about a hospital appointment that affects him too) no reply, I rang him and no reply either

I'm so pissed off, it's like he's punishing me for making life easier for myself, I can't see what I've done wrong?

That's so selfish of him. Unless something bad has happened but surely you would have heard. Don't pander to him.

Also, if I were him I would be rubbing my hands with glee at the prospect of the TV all to myself, not stropping about.

It's worrying because what would it be like if he did this when you are up to your neck in a newborn? Ie when you are very vulnerable (you may not be planning to have children).

He's an arse. He's ignoring your calls to make sure it's on your mind all day and to make sure the opportunity for a night away isn't pleasant but is overshadowed by his mood instead.

Its not a nice pattern of behaviour and I would suggest you nip it in the bud or show him the door

DH tends to go on the day to things, I tend to go the night before if possible - his work are stingier than mine on paying for hotels but mine are stingier on covering taxi fares even late at night or early (4am!) morning (as in "why didn't you take the bus?!"). So we are just used to doing things differently.

But there is no way that either of us would sulk about the other's plans - occasionally I will get a red eye flight rather than go the evening before, and occasionally he will have to go the evening before rather than waking the house at 4am. We wouldn't sulk about that either. It's about being sensible and doing what suits us best (while juggling around making sure someone is always there for DD(11) to get to school etc).

I hope your day goes well.

Blimey, don't people overreact on these threads!
Keep a diary? Of what, exactly?
I'd be a bit confused as to why my DP couldn't travel on the day too and it wouldn't even cross my mind to book a hotel if I were in your situation.
That being said, I wouldn't ignore him, I'd settle infront of the TV and enjoy some peace and quiet!
People react to these things in different ways and he might just be feeling a little hurt, just because he's a man doesn't make it null and void and unless he's doing anything else that makes you question him or your relationship I don't think it's worth getting upset about.

My DH works away and always chooses going the day/night before rather than red eye journeys. It makes total sense.

Yesterday he did his first red eye in years due to the colleague he was with' DW not allowing him to do an overnighter. Of course there may be a good reason but more likely she's being a dick like your H.

DH left the house at 4.30am and returned at 11pm. How can that be healthy?

He's just being controlling because he doesn't like you going off and being independent, presumably.

I've only had to work away once since getting with DP, but you know what he did? Text me to tell me to have a safe journey, rang me at night to tell me he loved me (didn't get pissy when I didn't answer as I was out with colleagues), picked me up from the station on my return and had my favourite food in for dinner.

He didn't get in a strop and ignore me because I wasn't around for three days

That is awful, he should want the best for you, doesn't sound like he cares very much OP, I'd also be re evaluating this relationship.