(Regular under a new name.) Here?s a (long) completely hypothetical question for you . Gut reactions, please?
You were in a relationship for, let?s say, five years. Like every other couple, you?ve had your ups and downs, your rows and irritations, maybe the initial gloss has worn off a bit but fundamentally, it?s good. You are friends and lovers, you have loads in common, shared values, you make each other laugh, etc. In fact, as far as you?re concerned, this is The One. Then one day, your dp comes home and tells you that they aren?t sure they are ?in love? with you anymore and they think it?s best if they move out. You are devastated. (Also, you have your suspicions that they may have had a one-night stand just before the relationship ended.)
A couple of months after leaving, dp says they have made a terrible mistake, love you and miss you and want to know if you can both try again. You say no. You love them still, but don?t think you can trust them. You can?t bear the possibility of getting hurt again. Your ?friendship? with dp becomes even more of a sham as each meeting is characterised by dp begging your forgiveness, lots of tears, etc etc. You stand firm and maintain they're untrustworthy and fickle even though you do, in your heart, want them back.
And then, a couple of years after your split, dp gets married and has a baby. And then, dp?s marriage ends. And then, dp comes to you and tells you that they still love you, that they have never gotten over you, that they married on the rebound and they really, really can?t bear being without you. All those feelings you have tried to bury over the last few years come back to the surface. Deep down, you do still have strong feelings for dp. What do you say?