Don't know what to do.

[disneykid]

So from when I was born to about 10 my uncle had a girlfriend and I was brought up calling her auntie. They went through a lot and she stayed with him when something horrendous which happened in the family.

He ended up leaving her and finding someone much younger to have kids and get married. (Dick move, yes I know)

I still speak to the lady I called auntie, because she's nice and hasn't actually don't anything wrong. We're close. I don't invite her to family party's or anything to keep everyone else happy but I've just had a baby and would actually like her to be god mother.

She's also just found out she's pregnant so I think we will be able to help each other.

My mum still talks/meets up with her too, hut I feel awkward about it and just want everyone to stop thinking about theirselves for the day (everyone else will think I'm doing it just to rub it in uncles face)

What should I do?

Well obviously it's up to you. But for me, I don't think it would be fair on my uncle to keep bringing his ex back into the picture. Unless you are prepared to keep her entirely separate from family, it wouldn't really work I'd say. Nobody wants to keep having an ex pop up, unless it's absolutely necessary (e.g. have dc together). Put yourself in his shoes and imagine how you'd feel. I wouldn't want to be in the same room now with any of my ex's.

I know, I probably look like an idiot even asking. Obviously I wouldn't want to do anything to make him feel uncomfortable but I think it just annoys me that she was always there and then all of a sudden I couldn't even mention her name. I never bring her up in front of him, and I know family will always be 'on his side' but I just seriously don't know what do to.

Do what you want op and sod everyone else.

What My heart says

Sod everyone else. She's basically family. It's your child. Fuck em. (not your child or her.... just for clarification...)

She's your close friend now so if you want her as god mother then have her. Sod everyone else it's your child not theirs.

You are quite within your rights to have whom ever you want as a friend, godmother, auntie. Your uncle will have to pull up his big boys pants and be polite.

Thanks for all the replies everyone. I always thought I should be able just to chose as it isn't about anyone else. Just wanted some more advise.