Sexting

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Do women actually ever enjoy doing this? Is it a turn on or do it for men because they like it? Not necessarily photos but just sexy chat. I never send photos

I have no interest in it, it does not arouse me and actually it's really quite boring. I've always felt this way about it. I perfectly like having sex In real life just not this virtual reality.

Wondering as it comes up from time to time and yet to this day I have never enjoyed it!

The most I might ever send is a dressed but saucy cleavage - no face

It just doesn't turn me on. Literally have no feelings about it except boredom. I want to actually enjoy it though

Well my stbxw seems to be addicted to it and it led to a 16 year marriage ending as she has slept with at least one of the guys she was sexting. If you have kids I would seriously think about where your priorities are as she is now only going to see them a few days a week.

When me and DW where dating, we used to get flirty and dirty over messenger, and we both seemed to have a lot of fun (and things would get exciting when we met up next).

We stopped when we moved in together, but now she sometimes has to travel for work, and I've tried sending messages that might start off dirty convos, but she doesn't seem interested now. I think the fun was in turning each other on, and the wait to make the messages become true (lots of fantasising)

welly I don't think op is talking about sexting in an adultery way.

I dont mind some flirty slightly sexy stuff but find the rest of it boring like you OP. Even though i can be very creative - it doesnt turn me on at all.

I used to fake it with my XBF. Prefer real life.

I love doing it with my dh. We often sext all day and then makes sex when he gets home so bloody amazing

Philthesahd - wasn't implying she was but that's not what my stbxw was intending either. She said it was just a bit of fun to relieve boredom when I'm at work but it very quickly escalated. Sexting can become like a drug, I watched her get more and more addicted to checking messages and it all went downhill from there

I wouldn't do it with someone I had never met eg online dating. It is so embarrassing when you meet and you dont like them on sight.

I gave someone the benefit of the doubt once when he was sexting the night before we were due to meet for the first time. In real life he turned out to be really nice but I couldn't get past the messages and it put me off. I did tell him and he said, sorry I completely misread the signals.

Completely agree: it's beyond embarrassing to have had sex chat and then discover there's nil attraction.

Having said that, once it's been established that there's connection/attraction, sexting or even phone sex is a good way of sussing out compatibility pre-shag without having to get naked and have all the associated risks of pregnancy and disease. If a guy says something that's either really creepy or totally ridiculous then you can draw a line under things there and then!

I find it cringey beyond belief. DP thankfully isn't into it either, I just went along with it with previous partners but was never into it myself. But, perhaps if it was eloquently worded it would be more acceptable, but the clumsy wording and spelling mistakes from previous men put me off big time. One memorable message, after over a month of no communication whatsoever read 'mmm I cant wait to get me some of that sweet little pussay' made me vomit into my mouth.

Help please: I am in a happy, but sexless marriage, bn together for 30 years. Love my DH to bits, but feel unattractive in the extreme. Started text chatting with a younger guy after connecting on twitter, went too far last night and shared v explicit texts, no pics from me, but 2 from him. Yes, felt great at the time, I felt wanted and sexy for first time in ages. Now feel guilty, awful, anxious and not sure how to put a stop to this. I am v stressed abt many things just now, no excuse, I know. I really don’t know what to do to stop this.