I'm reeling the insensitive b*******

[DollyPS]

I've lost weight as I'd been overweight/obese for a long time and decided after a health scare it was time
Now my sex life has taken a bloody nose dive and I should of noticed but I was so pleased I'd lost the weight and thought he would be too oh no he grumbled and moaned over the scales (food ones) being out all the time and He then blatantly said I was more attractive fat and he liked me fat. I'm reeling at this because I'm now at my healthy weight and there is no way I'm going back as I'm better health and shape wise.
He has sodded off and said you'll have to decide the spineless knob.
Yeah mate you can fuck off I ain't going back to being obese again ta muchly.
I'm looking at the kids ice cream thinking I can eat that but I won't not to appease him I won't. I'm off to scrub the kitchen floor as I'm angry 😡 with him.
Now I know why he would sulk and whinge when I refused take outs and chippy teas.
I don't even care if he comes back tonight that's how angry i am.

Sorry, who is "he" in this scenario? A husband, someone you are dating? Does he live with you? Do you have DC together?

What does he mean "You will have to decide?"

He sounds insecure and you probably look fabulous after your weight loss and he can't handle it. Don't let him get to you, this is his issue not yours. He feels threatened but do whats best for you, not what he thinks you should do.

Well done on the weight loss

Hes probably shitting himself now that you are looking and feeling fab and possibly more confident that you will run off with someone else. Jealousy. Hes being a twat. You aren't doing this for him anyway. It was for yourself!! Go on ya girl ye!

Sorry it's husband and older children well young adults really.

I have to decide if I want be thin or fat his words I choose healthy and told him so and he left in the huff.

So he is saying your marriage is over because you are no longer overweight?

OK, I would pack up his stuff and send it to his mums/brothers/friends house and text him to advise. What a knobhead!

Sounds like you might have just lost an extra 13 stone of useless lard ie your husband

I bet you any money he's worried now that you've lost weight you'll be attractive to other men, He wants you 'fat' so he can control you.

Blimey, stay healthy and maybe lose another fifteen stone or so ☺

Good for you. Get rid of the unsupportive, obnoxious prick. You don't need him sabotaging your looks, health, life and future happiness.

I bet it's not about you being slim, I bet it's about your new found confidence and control...I bet it's about you feeling happier and attractive and he doesn't like it. Sod him, your health and happiness is paramount to anything else!

Well floor scrubbed and I feel better.

He's came back but refuses to talk. So me being me told him I will not go back to being fat for as long as I can. I did this for my health not to bag another man ffs. Yes I am a lot slimmer and no I do not need to gain weight for him. I then said if he didn't like it he can fuck off and go back and stay with his dad and find himself another woman if he felt so damn strongly about it.
He didn't say a word but did go wide eyed at a few things.
I've left him to stew over my words. He's also on the sofa the night.

Is he a fat fetishist?

I don't think so as I wasn't fat when we met 18 years ago in fact I was my skinniest then but People do change over time don't they.

I bet you are more confident and he is scared that you will see through him. He's an arsehole.