I have been posting a lot recently about my relationship with partner. I just need to get some perspective on this.
Basically, my family haven't liked DH for a long time. They are very different people and come from really different backgrounds. My family (mum, sister and dad) keep on telling me that DH is abusive. Their reasons are that in the past he has put me down in front of the children and other family members (which he now realises is wrong and is rectifying); I have always had to take the lead on childcare and housework (in saying this he works full time, gardens and takes the children out once a week) and on one occasion when I was really ill he refused to take time off work to help me out.
Lastly, I made the mistake of telling him about a colleague at work who made (more than one) pass at me at two separate work functions. He is now obsessed with the fact that I might shag this guy even though I have made it clear I don't want anything to happen. On top of this, we almost never have sex -last time was a year ago.
We are now attending counselling together to sort out our differences. The counsellor has never said that she thinks he is abusive and I can see how hard he is trying to put things right but quite frankly I don't want to waste time with counselling if the minute it is over, I am back to square one and am utterly miserable again.