Lies about ex on Facebook

[JJRJ1002]

Hi all

Please help we with your opinions on this as I know I can jump to conclusions very quickly.

I'm not on Facebook but my OH is , he was showing me something the other day on his fb page and I accidentally clicked the search button and seen the last person he searched was his ex gf. I questioned him and he denied it. I knew he was lying as it was there in black and white.

Then today I was with my friend and she was looking at her fb and she went on to my oh's page and clicked on a pic of our daughter and I seen that his ex had liked the pic. (Him and her had never been friends on fb when I was on fb a few years ago)
We saw that they were friends on fb. I called him to ask about this and he denied it saying they weren't friends and didn't know she liked the pic) When I got off the phone and rechecked they were no longer friends on fb.

I feel very upset about the lies!
If the shoe was ok the other foot I know he'd be mad.

Am I right to feel like this. Or am I overreacting?

I have a few exes on fb. I'm curious about them as I am with other people I know. Doesn't mean anything and I would never want to get back together with them.

I hate to be typical suspicious MN-type....
And your behaviour - asking about the search, calling him and coming down on him about an Ex liking you kid's pic - that to me seemed a little (a lot) over the top jealous.

However, that Ex disappearing from Friends - is a little suspicious. (Although - it could be innocent - and he could have deleted her having realised that your are all up in arms)
So - who knows.

If i were you - i'd tone it down and just observe, and snoop around a bit later. Just to give yourself a bit of peace of mind.

Why can't he be friends with his ex?

you can like pics without being friends, maybe they were never friends?

What's wrong with being mates with exes?

Perhaps he lied because he knew you would overreact?

Honestly I don't care that he's friends with his ex on fb , but I hate the double standards - if it was the other way round he'd go nuts, he's the one who doesn't wanna hear nothing about my ex's, I can't talk to him about his past relationships but he never wants to hear about mine.

And I question how come there friends on there now that I have come off fb! They were never friends on there before.

And y all the lies ?????

You're overreacting

You say you came off Facebook years ago, so maybe she's gotten a new account since then, or maybe they just decided to add each other to keep in touch?

You say you don't have an issue with them being friends but you clearly do

I'm mates with my ex on FB. In fact, two of them. I was fortunate enough to remain friends (though long distance friends, to be fair).

But my OH knows this, and I've never hidden it.

You should tell him that you don't mind (and if you do mind, you shouldn't) but he should be honest and not hide it because hiding these things undermines trust.

I have ex's on FB and haveremainer loose friends with them, they like some of my comments or photos and vice versa.

In your position, I'd be pissed if my dh lied about searching for an ex or that they weren't friends on fb, when I'd seen they were and that he'd deleted her after I'd asked him. That smacks of either wrong doing, or is you say he'd go mad at you for doing the same, maybe he realises it's wrong. In either case it's not on.

You both sound insecure. I wouldn't have liked being lied to, but I wouldn't have cared in the first place.