Not in love with my wife how i once was!

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I have to ask it here, mumsnet helped us so much over the years, from my child fall to screaming. Anyways we have been married 10 years got one child who is 5. We have been lovely together, soulmates! Best you can imagine. We are both around 30. Since last year or so things are changing, she is starting to agressive, does not like if i comment how i want to raise my child, maybe because i am not there 24X7, she is. Well We cant separate as i she was perfect, these are small things, but i dont love her as much as i did. We are not the soulmates we once were, maybe its a process of growing up, i dont know And i just continue providong and carrying on. We do have sex once a week, not sure if we both like it much, well i guess it keeps us bonded, Is this normal, or do we need to do something, could it get worse? I know the obvious answer will be talk to her, but i mean what there is to say or ask! Thanks for your help

Is this normal?

Sparkling As one of the last few posters prior to yours, I've seen many women who have received similar responses to those on this thread when the occasion has warranted it. If you're of a mind to do so then please do keep an eye out for my posts in the future and if you think I'm demonstrating gender bias, I'm happy to be pulled up about it.

OP, although I stand by every single word of my post (and would have written exactly the same if it was a woman posting) I certainly didn't intend to make you feel unwelcome, either in general or because of your gender, and I apologise if I've done that.

I fully disagree with the idea that if your dw doesnt give you what you want, you should leave.
As if situations like this cant be worked on and improved .

I think that relationhsip can change, how you feel about yourself, how you see your future, what is important and what are your priorities.

What sticks out for me is

• she is more aggressive atm. Why? What's happening in her life's that isn't right? Is it about your relationship or is it about something else (eg child starting school she is bored, she wants to feel like herself rather than mum etc...)
• you feel you dont love her as much. Are you? Or is that because you/she isnt feeling right then everything doesnt feel right?

Also what is that special bond? Do you think it meant to start exactely the same all throughout your lives or is it meant to evolve? Not being the same doesnt always mean being bad or ot as good.

One thng i will never do is assuming it 'will resolve itself'.
Problems never resolve themselves. They do so whe peole are putting their attention and effort to solve them.

I'm sure it could be a phase.
I've been married 23 yrs now. I'm at a stage in my life where I've got lots of friends celebrating 25, 40 or even more years of marriage. I don't think any of them would say their marriages have only been all laughter and romance and passion and joy. Of course there are times when - either you (that can be one of you or both of you) just stop making the effort, or stop prioritising each other. Or either one or both of you are just exhausted from work/parenting/life generally. Or one (or both) of you has been focusing on something(s) to the exclusion of all else. When you are young that can be work - trying to get on - or study - or the dc, or usually a combination of more than one thing, and working on your relationship becomes less and less of a priority. It is rarely just one or the other, it is what tends to happen when other things in life get in the way.
The important thing is recognising it and then doing something about it.

I don't think I've ever seen a female poster taken to task for saying "my child" over "our child" in 6 years on MN. Woe betide any man who dares use those two words when seeking advice. Shameful.

And i just continue providong and carrying on

You're painting yourself as the long-suffering provider to her non-provider. In what way does she provide less than you, and is her contribution so much smaller than yours that it merits being pointed out like this?
If she is a SAHM, her division of labour will be equal or greater to yours. Don't fall into the trap of thinking of her as some unappreciative, exploitative shrew and you as the worn-down heroic breadwinner. It very likely ain't so.
Have you considered that you don't play the part in family and home life that she would prefer you did?