I don't like to dwell on the past, but I am currently (fingers crossed) in the final processes of selling my house which I owned with my ex partner, and it is reminding me how much of an arse he was and still is. He's lied leading up to and throughout the sale process, and broken the terms of the mortgage in several ways. So he's an arse in that respect still lol.
We split up 6 years ago. Fortunately time has faded the memories but he wasn't a nice person to be with. Never physically abusive as such but aggressive if he didn't get his own way, and would binge drink to the point of being sick most weekends.
The house still bears the scars from where he got angry and punched the internal doors. He would throw things too.
I remember having a heated argument once because he didn't want me to take a handbag to the airport (I still have no idea why), and he refused to budge.
I feel once the house is gone, I'll be able to close the door on that part of my life once and for all.
He's in a relationship now, and has a child (I know this because a mutual friend, and he himself told me). I just wonder, for her and the children's sake, whether he still acts the same way? Do people like him ever change, and learn from the past?
I should add, I've moved on, I'm living with DP of three and a half years and DSS.
I feel like the house is the final connection, forcing me to have contact with EXP. I can't wait for it to be gone, am going to buy myself a big bottle of champagne to celebrate when I finally hand the keys in :)