I have posted a fair bit on Mumsnet about my marriage. A lot of stuff has gone on & as I have said many times, things are improving ( even though not everyone who replies seems to agree) but old habits die hard. DD was incredibly hard work today & I was letting off steam about it all to DH. We did have a really good talk & also went over what happened between her & him this morning. He " advised" me what I could do differently but when I picked him up on how he made this morning a thing when it so easily could have been over in seconds, he started to make excuses. It's kind of like he can dish it out but he can't take it. I have to say, this is happening a lot less but the habit is still there. It's so difficult with parenting, isn't it? I know that often what he says to me is right or I already know what I need to do & he is just confirming it. But it's a two way street. Just looking for ways to break those habits so that I can equally " advise" him. As I said, it is quite a bit better & generally we talk about stuff that's bothering us in a much healthier way than we used to. I think DH makes excuses when he knows himself he's in the wrong but can't admit it.