Is there a difference between "I love you" and "love you"

[EddyF]

Sorry I know it's not the most important topic, but I was wondering if it bothers you when the 'I' is missing from these type of sentiments. E.g "Miss you" instead of "I miss you" "Care for you" instead of "I care for you".

It just annoys me a little when you tell your partner "I love you" and they reply "love you too" in text msgs.

Yes I know it's not a big deal but I was wondering if I'm alone in this?

Thanks

I know what you mean. Love ya sounds quite dismissive and not as genuine. It is probably often said in response to someone saying I love you first.

Oh gosh the title is a mess!

Thanks Grow up, that's exactly how it feels. How hard is it to put the 'I' in it?

Definitely a difference - adding the 'I' is more personal and directed.

I think there is a difference. There is more commitment and intent with the 'I'.

Yes, definitely a difference. I say 'I love you' to DH, DGM and DC but I say love you to everyone else because it's a more general 'love'.

Yes. I think love you is quite a throwaway term and not as serious or thought out as I love you.

Well if someone gazed steadily into my eyes and said " love you ", if be put off, but it's fine for a text message, or a quick goodbye before work IMO.

Personally, I find the 'I' cloying and saccharine, especially if one person has already said it - ie. if my partner sends 'I love you' then I will send 'Love you too' back. I reserve an 'I love you' for occasions of particular appreciation (like coming in to find the washing up already done ). However, I'm probably emotionally bankrupt, so feel free to ignore my viewpoint.

Yes I agree with that. I also have an absolute dislike of "I love you to bits". What on earth does that mean? In my world, you either love somebody or you don't - 'bits' do not come into it.

I think you're massively overthinking it

I think I probably say both and mean exactly the same thing. I think you're massively overthinking it too.

Yes, there is. You only have to imagine yourself saying each of them to someone you love to feel the vulnerability when you add the "I".

I'm with sooperdooper.

There's overthinking & then there's this

I think you're overthinking things. If I text DH I just say 'love you loads' at the end of a text but it's just because it's easier and I'm a lazy texter. It doesn't mean I love him any less because I don't type 'I'.