hey
i need advice on my very new relationship - we met online end of april and really hit it off. had 3 dates over 10 days - lots in common but lots of differences to keep us interested, chemistry and just felt so at ease with him with lots of texting, and calls in between with flirting, complements & sexting.
we spent the night together (dtd) and then had a date at chessingtons which was fab - he then had a week off work in which he had to do decorating etc so we didnt see each other, he was really stressed out with not getting as much done as he wanted etc.. texting continued but there was no flirting, compliments etc...
he called me at least once a day to chat, continued texting and after his week off we have seen each other twice a week - ive stayed over at his and we've made plans for the future (going away in october, a work night out)
i am sooooo into him and have been continuously checking myself to not fall head over heels and to not appear too full on (even though he has been fairly full on too) so i was meant to spend sunday and bh monday with him at his but he was ill so he cancelled on the sat. we kept in touch texting and on bh monday he felt much better so when he called i said I'd come over later but i got a 'i need a shower and have loads of washing/housework etc to do - lets leave it and meet up later in the week'
queue me out of nowhere getting upset because im disappointed. rather than say owt, i was too embarrassed so quickly got off the phone and sat there sobbing (stupid hormonal cow)
i text him a couple of hours later saying i dont think i can do this, ive invested too much and its affecting me, he replied saying he didnt know what to say or understand what i meant.
i replied its my issue, that im in too deep and think something has changed. i asked if i could go over and talk but he said it wasnt a good idea as he was angry as I'd dumped him. i called him upset and said i wasnt dumping him just needed time out
anyway - the next morning i text him explaining how i was upset and it scared me and was worried he was no where near the same page as me. he said he felt a bit out of his depth - was used to being on his own and was worried at the speed of things
i suggested we take a week out, reevaluate if its what we want and if so how we can proceed. its killing me!!!! its been 3 days and weve texted (im sitting on my hands to stop from having the phone constantly around and waiting to reply to him) he is making effort by texting me first.
sorry for the verbal diarrhoea and if it makes no sense what so ever
im just looking for advice as to what you think is going on? i think he's gone in to his man cave and i think we do have a future so how can i not mess it up and how should i handle it when we do meet up after a week to talk?? i plan on asking him if he's still in before talking (no point going into great discussion for him to say its over)
he is very open and honest with me about everything - i dont believe he has dated anyone with kids before so i'm not sure if this has any bearing?
help?? please make sense of this nonsense - im 41 ffs not 17