It's nothing new but has been like this my entire life. My mum and I barely talk. We can literally sit in the same room and not speak at all. If she speaks its about other people. She will never ask me anything. How I am. Why I am so sad. Just nothing. She'll always tell me to loose weight and that's it. I know i need to loose weight - i wear a 14/16. Till this day I struggle to recall a time when she has ever said "I love you or you look nice" or anything to that effect. It really saddens me. Am I just being silly?? I fantasized about the relationships other girls and their mom's have. Talk everyday. Don't stop talking. Laughing. Shopping. Secrets. Advice. Best friends. I'm 38 and have 2 small kids. Whenever she comes to visit my kids I feel really upset and even more lonely. I guess it brings it all to the surface. She just kinda ignores me and plays with the kids. I know she only comes to see them. I just wonder why out of all 4 children I am the most 'shelved' one. I always have a long cry after she leaves. We can go weeks without any communication. I just don't get it. I often forget I have a mother. My dad died 12 years ago. She never speaks about him just that we shouldn't remember the dead. She had a go at me because my daughter's middle name is my dad's name. She said I should forget him. I found it most bizarre and just walked out the room. I've lost track of this conversation but the bottom line is we have no relationship and I find that hard to deal with.