I feel blue...

[Cashncarry]

Thought twice about posting today but if I don't get it out I'll go mad so what the hell...

Had such a crappy crappy day. DH had his first Saturday off in ages and we decided to go out for shopping and lunch. We had a little tiff over lunch - DD wouldn't sit still so I couldn't eat mine. He finished his and wanted to start going to put stuff in the car. I made a face and got irritable about never being able to finish a meal.

He took DD off me. She was bawling and wailing but he went off anyway. I packed my lunch up and caught up with him by the shop doors. DD had just been sick on the floor - she must have been crying so hard

Anyway, he storms off with her still wailing standing in the trolley, sick on her top and is bellowing "You wait till we get home. Never going out again with you two" etc. etc. I am mortified with shame and brimming with rage at the same time. He yells all the way home while she falls asleep in the car.

We get home, I mutter something about needing to pick up my dry cleaning and drive around with her asleep until she wakes up, I take her to a shop toilet and clean her up and we have a nice treat in the cafe.

I've not spoken to him since I've got home. I'm so fed up, angry and just generally pissed off with my life. He's crap at everything and now it appears he's a crappy crappy father to top it off.

Half of me thinks I'm being unreasonable and everyone has an off day. The other half of me wants to take my daughter and run as fast as I can.

and more

I'm not very good at dishing out advice but the first thing that springs to mind is get yourself off to bed, get a good night's sleep and hopefully you will feel better in yourself tomorrow to deal with the situation.

Thanks sparkler but tbh I don't think I could sleep I haven't eaten anything since my half-eaten lunch (not a bad thing given my weigh issues!).

I just feel soooo sorry for myself and at a total loss as to how I should be handling this.

I hope someone comes along soon that can give you some good advice. I've always been a fab listener but when it comes to dishing out the advice (and even adhering to my own advice I don't seem to do very well).
Hope you have a better day tomorrow. xxx

Hi cash, sorry to hear you're having a rough time. I'm sure we have all had days like this, I know I have but hopefully your dp will do something soon to remind you why you are with him and that he's not such a crap dad!
Sometimes when we have been like this I get a bottle of wine to share and have a long chat about things and in the past it has been the case that dp has felt left out because I can be a bit controlling/overprotective where the kids are involved.
Probably waffling now but all I'm trying to say is hope he starts making you feel better but you may have to point out to him how he can do that as they are a bit rubbish at taking hints.
Anyway hope tomorrow is a better day!

I know that when DH and I find ourselves in these sorts of situation we never hold a grudge. I would probably just go up to my DH and give him a huge hug. We are very good at forgiving and forgetting. Would this work for you both?

Oh bless you misc - you didn't waffle, I certainly did!

Was just a bit worried I was overreacting re: the shouting but DD doesn't seem bothered and gave him a huge cuddle when we got home.

I should go to bed but might allow myself some wallowing in self pity a little longer

admit it you're not staying up to wallow your just addicted to mn!!

He's fallen asleep in front of the TV again so another black mark against him!

I am a terrible sulker Sparkler but will try my hardest not to hold a grudge tomorrow. Depends what he sorts out for Mother's Day on DD's behalf

We've had such a lot of problems I do find myself turning every little thing into a crisis and planning my escape!

I AM addicted to MN

Pot calling kettle black tho' don't you think?

Cash

This sounds like resentment has been building up. And it does sound like a crap day. You would be better sleeping this one off.

If there's other stuff are you able to talk to dh about it?

My DH works shifts so normal social patterns are completely out. I remember getting excited about any days off and being a 'normal' family but those days never turn out well. And I'm sure we all feel that dps are often not up to the parenting job.

I'm kind of guessing where you're coming from but I really hope you are able to communicate with your dh.

Keep posting if it helps.
hugs

well as i'm on here at 10.30 on a sat night ignoring my dp......you may well have a point!

Blimey Cash -your dh sleeping - my dh exactly the same.

Can really see your frustration now!!!!!

and to think that I was worried about posting in case everyone said leave him! LOL!!

You're all very sensible and lovely. Have gone from sad tears to laughing out loud tears

Do you think it's too late for cheese on toast??

ohh...Now i have to go and get some cheese on toast!
definately not worth leaving him over, read some of the threads on here about REALLY rubbish dp's always makes me appreciate mine a bit more.