In a relationship but feel like a single parent?

[firsttimemummy123]

Is anyone else in a relationship where you do absolutely everything and may as well be a single parent?
I go to work, pay all the bills, pay childcare, cook, clean... blah blah blah. Even holidays and days out it's just me and our daughter. She's 3 and becoming more challenging with her behaviour and I have zero support from him... thank the lord for parents/grandparents!!!

Does he live with you ?

Does he literally do nothing? No job to help pay bills? No interaction with your daughter? No talking to you/providing emotional support?
If not then get rid.

Why does he do so little? Why have you allowed this? He is really good in bed?

What does he do with his income?
If you fell down the stairs and broke your leg are you saying he wouldn't look after your child?

Yes.. goes to work all day, comes in has his tea then sits upstairs in bedroom... yesterday we had our first day out together to the fair and it consisted of him picking fault with me and our daughter alll day until we came home and he took himself upstairs

He spents all his money on things he wants... a new TV we didn't need. A new motorbike... nothing towards running the house... he is great with our daughter I go to back to work one hour in the evening and as much as he moans he always looks after her... but I have to have her bathed and in her pj's before I go.

I haven't allowed this it slipped into this when he was out of work for a while due to health probs now all recovered and working again he won't agree to help

No you're not like a single parent, because if you were you would have the freedom to make your own choices and live your own life, however challenging and juggling that can be at times.

What you are doing now is everything with the additional bonus of tiptoeing round a massive lazy manchild.

Really, Howe would your life be worse if you chucked him out.

Actually you'd probably get EOW to yourself to relax while he stepped up and fathered in accordance with a court order....

ButtonMushroom... this is exactly how I'm feeling right now! I'd get more help being on my own than I am with him...

That sounds like worse than being a single parent

Imagine doing everything and not having to look at his loser mug. Sounds great to me.

LTB

Sits upstairs? How olds he? seems like he has no interest in you or his child. As previous posters say, it would be easier to be a single parent then you arent doing his cooking, laundry etc and tip toeing around him. Get his bags packed

What a disgrace; why are you supporting this waste of space; go be a single parent, get rid of him, he's beyond useless and no it's not normal.

yep - he's not invested in you one bit.
sounds like a cocklodger to me.
bin.

Yeah he doesn't sound like a good person, parent or partner tbh. I'm a single parent and just wanted to advise you not to go into a split thinking he will have to have your child eow or at all. Some "dads" don't and your partner hasn't shown interest up til now so there's a good chance he won't once you split either.

I had a husband like that.
I dont anymore.
I am now a single parent and its easier.

You and DD are getting nothing from this relaltionship so why be in it?

Chuck him out, he needs to learn to grow up and face his responsibilities.

I'm a single parent. You would be better off if you were

'he is great with our daughter I go to back to work one hour in the evening and as much as he moans he always looks after her... but I have to have her bathed and in her pj's before I go.'

No, he isn't. He isn't 'great' with shit. He's a loser. Get rid.

Dump him.

ExH was like this. He would go to the pub every day after work then come home and play Xbox while I cooked the dinner, bathed DS, read to him, put him to bed.

I left. Ironically he spends more time with DS than he did when we were together, because I am not there on his contact days to bloody do it all. I am a thousand times happier as a single parent.

after I get more free time now than I did in my marriage! And I don't have to pander to a man-child any more.

This is exactly my situation. I’m in a relationship, 2 years next month we have a 10month old together and I have to do EVERYTHING. I pay all the bills for the house, buy all the food, do all the cooking, cleaning, washing do everything for my 10 month old as well as my 6 year old and honestly I’m at wits end he goes out in a morning after being with me and the kids for an hour or so then doesn’t come back until around 7pm ish and that’s the boys bedtimes. I don’t have anytime to myself he complains when the house gets a tiny bit messy even though I spend all day cleaning, I tell him he needs to do more he says he will but doesn’t at this point I feel like I’d be better off as a single parent because I’m already doing everything a single parent does :/ sorry about the rant I just don’t have anyone else to talk to about it :(

ZOMBIE THREAD

Definitely get rid of him - too many women are in this situation it's a far cry from where they want to be - what on earth is the point if a man doesn't want to pull his weight - I divorced mine.