He's gone back on it!

[babayjane67]

I've been with my dp for 10 yrs& we have an 8yr old dd.
I have a big birthday coming up next month.
Originally we were all gonna go on a wkend away with family& friends but then some couldn't make it so I then changed it to having a bbq at ours as I thought it'd be easier for everyone not having to worry about childcare etc.
Then couple of my friends can't make that either,I had a falling out with my eldest dd(who's an adult with her own family.we are fine niw)so I thought sod ithe let's go back to original plan& just go away the 3 of us dp dd& me.
Dp was fine with this at first asking me where I wanna go is there anything I would like to see/do etc.
So I told him a couple of things I'd like to do& he turned his nose up& I said OK I'm quite happy to just have a wkend by the seaside then.OK he said find somewhere& we'll book it!
I found somewhere&said theres a nice park place nearby we can visit that we'do enjoy.
He turns round&says why don't u just have a bbq?I said no I've told everyone it's off now&you were up for it& asked me what I wanna do!he said well I don't wanna be driving here there&everywhere!I wanna enjoy yr birthday!at least I can have a drink if we have a bbq!
My actual birthday is on a work day for both of us.this trip away would be 2 wks after.
I was well pissed off&still am!I didn't spk to him for a bit.
I then brought the subject up again at the wkend&said themail place was still free to book&he just said yea?in a so what sort of way&said no more!
I've been quite depressed for while,having to have time off work etc.I thought this would be great to get away first my birthday.
He works ft&I work pt so he would be paying for it. I know money is bit tight each month but he'd already agreed to it&asked me what I wanna do etc so I don't understand the turnaround niw&total disinterest!
Our first original plan 2yrs ago for this was to go abroad but then at the beginning of this yr he decided we couldn't do that!
Everything seems up in the air about it now. Like he's decided we are gonna do a bbq first MY birthday&that's it!i don't have a say in it!

The mystery for me is why you would want to spend any day with him let alone a birthday. He sounds like a prick.

It's fucking hard cillated!
He can be lovely.he has been very supportive through my depressive bouts.
He's just not very emotionally available at times&can be hard work!
I'm not perfect either.I know I can be too.

I didn't say you can't post on both! I'm not the MN police anyway.

I'm just saying it's confusing when you say you haven't posted before became most people would think "here" meant all of MN.

Anyway, I'm with other posters - can't see why you want to go away with him at all. I'd give myself a great birthday present and get rid.

You think that would be enough to end the relationship?
I know I can bring my dd up alone I did it before when my marriage broke up with my 2 grown up kids.
But I'm scared of being alone again& breaking up yet another family unit& breaking my little girls heart!

Most people don't end a relationship over a single event that on its own seems fairly trivial.
That single event is sometimes the straw that broke the camel's back.

Only you know if you're happy with him, if the bad is actually minor niggles - or overwhelming.