I need reassurance

[tammybear]

Ok, as some of you know, I have my driving test tomorrow (Monday), an interview on Friday and possibly another interview this week (find out tomorrow). I have been a bag of nerves, and is it wrong of me to expect some support from my dp?

It seems everytime I need him most, he always ALWAYS starts an arguement with me! This weekend, he thought I was being funny with him when Im not, and taking everything and I mean EVERYTHING the wrong way. He had it in his mind that I was angry with him when I wasnt and kept saying over and over "I havent done anything". This subsequently led me to get angry with him because he wouldnt shut up about it.

Eg This week everything has been looking up. Mum was saying she thinks this could be a good turning point for me, and I could finally be getting out of my rut. However things have been going downhill since, and I said to dp that a bad omen has suddenly started as my neighbours are keeping me up til early morning, i broke my discman and electric screwdriver, he is arguing with me when I need him to be supportive and other things. He then took that the wrong way and thought I was calling him a bad omen which was not at all what I meant.

Why does he always have to do this when I need him most???

MEN!!! ...

cheer up tammybear luv, your really nervous aswell witch is making you feel worse, just egnore him you never no he is proberlly jelous that your getting on with your life and your getting out of your rut and he dont like it, my dp is just the same as your maybee worse so i no how you feel good luck for tomorow dont let him spoil it for you mate you no where i am if you want a chat take care xxxxxxxx nikkixxxx

thanks nikcola, im trying 2 b positive. at least dd's keeping a smile on my face

He sounds like a big spoiled baby to me. He knows damn well you didn't call him a bad omen, he's just grumpy about something and he's taking it out on you. The more you accept this kind of thing the more he will do it. You have to let him know that you won't accept it. Why should you? Would you treat him like this? If not then why does he deserve to be spoken to considerately and you don't?

If you don't respect yourself enough to insist he treats you properly he never will. I think you should have a quiet, calm, measured word with him. You'll probably scare the s**t out of him! But do you really want to stay with him if he goes on doing this?

thanks janstar. hes coming to spend the week with me tomorrow (or at least thats the plan), so im going to talk to him.

tammybear - could he be being like this because you are getting so sorted with job interviews and driving test and feels a bit threatened?

im not sure mummytosteven. now that i think about it, he is having problems at work and has been wanting to get a new job, so maybe he is being funny cos of that

im really upset now. havent heard from dp all day. i havent contacted him. im really nervous about tomorrow now and i dont want to contact him and him start an arguement and make me feel even worse than i already do.

tammybear - run yourself a hot bath and get an early night and good luck with your driving test tomorrow. i reckon that your dp is feeling down coz of problems at work and needs reassurance so wants you to mother him, and so doesn't feel like giving you the reassurance you need atm. All this tetchiness/sensitiveness sounds like a mixture of being down and wanting loads of attention from you. Don't know what to suggest - could you get anyone to babysit so you could have a meal out or something together to chill out together?

hes suppose to be coming tomorrow to stay at mine for the week (we dont live together) so we were going to try and go out for a meal as its both our birthdays. but at the moment im not sure if hes still coming

well just to make things all that much brighter (note the sarcasim) looks like ive broken up with dp