I need some advices please - dont know what to do with this friend!!!.......

[babyeyes]

as she is depressed at the moment and i am not bothered about her as i was depressed last year which i ended up on tabs and she wasnt there for me as all she said by text "get well soon"!! some friend she was as i didnt see her for a while!

Also every single time we go out for a drink with a gang of us..the night ended up in a massive arguements with other people as she is so paranoid and argumentative to ANYONE that bumped into her who is pissed as she thinks they done it on purpose so i dont enjoy it going out which i stopped going out with her for a long time then when out with her before Christmas adn it was the same thing again - either fights or urguing with others.

She had got a lot of problems at the moment and tried to commit suicide as she got lots of problems with her ex hubby who she just got divorced from and other things too..

i know i am a coward and selfish... but i cannot help the way i feel

Don't blame you, I'd dump her too

and a few years ago..she cheated on me with my exboyfriend too so i did dump her for a while but she hadnt changed and also she thinks im her best friend too but she just a mate who i know

you don't sound much like friends

well ive been there for her whenever she have problems but she is not there for me so it really put me off

Cut my losses if I was you.

what do i say to her though? as she had been nagging me to meet up when i dont wants to meet up with her

ah...

You appreciate she has difficulties but she doesn't see that you might

Strikes me as a 'memememeME' type, needs you there as a friend all the time but never there when you need her.

Clutter clear her from your life. Harsh to say but you need to wean her off you. Try a 'I'm sorry for your problem but I have to {what ever you have to deal with] so I can't {whatever she demands of you]. It might sink in after a while.

Friendship has to be a 2 sided thing, not one giver and one taker. Don't feel bad about how you feel

You don't need vampire friends - i.e people that just drain you emotionally.

oh yes she is a me me me person - VERY me!! as she bossed people around terrible too but she would not dare boss me about.

she used to be my best friend when we were in school but since she slept with my ex, i just see her as a mate as it would not bother me if i do not see her again - i know its terrible

well she hadnt said that she verbally wants to talk to me about it but had said that she was depressed yesterday and wanted to meet up

sounds like you could do without this type of friendship.

a good way of dealing with her could be to avoid contact with her, give excuses when she suggests meeting, she'll soon get the message!

well she is the type to turn up on my doorstep as she lost loads of friends over the years and cant see why...as its mainly her aggression

Oh fuck her right off, anyone who cheats with your ex is no friend.