He got physical I'm back

[confused84]

I posted on here a few weeks ago about my partner being abusive does anyone remember me?
Anyway to cut a long story short my friend who was going to help me let me down on the day and he never left. I couldn't come back to the forum because he took a week off and I couldn't risk posting back on here.
He was ok after the last incident but last night he kicked off again about my phone came out of nowhere tried to smash it up again.
I stood up to try and stop him and he pushed me over luckily the sofa was behind me but it still was a shock he's never physically touched me before.
He's gone to work but I need to get him out today . Is it assault if the sofa wasn't there I would of went flying he did it very hard.
He tried to be nice after and went and got me some food and tried to act like nothing happened an hour later despite throwing my phone across the room and stamping on it and pushing me over.
Want him to go today what if hits me next time he's a massive bloke I was scared

OP are you ok? You REALLY need to call the police !!

As others have said, phone the police now! I was in a similar position and phoned the police, they couldn't have been nicer and he's never stepped back in the house since.

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I've left , I left this morning.
I haven't replied to anything he's been sending me messages saying sorry etc and he doesn't know why he's like it and he says does things he don't mean and all that stuff what they say.
He said that he's left the house and posted the key but I need to get the locks changed regardless of that.
I haven't called the police but if he starts harassing me I will have no choice. I'm really sorry for worrying everyone , I couldn't come back on here last night I was trapped with him here. I'm at friends now until tomorrow when the kids are back and I will go home then.

I just got up this morning while he was asleep and drove off not got nothing with me.
Didn't know what else to do I can't confront him I can't tell him to his face he's unpredictable

Where are your children now? Are they with their father or a relative? Can you contact whoever they are with and let them know what is happening? Maybe they could keep the children for a little longer while you get sorted.

You can't go back while he's there so you need to contact the police. I'm sorry but you really do. They will make sure he leaves the property and if he comes back they will know the situation as soon as you call them.

Glad you are safe, OP. Very glad. You worried us there!

I remember your previous threads and it seems that he has escalated the violence, just as people told you he would. Please resolve not to listen to his apologies or promises. You just can't change who he is.

I can't recall if the DC are his or not? If not, then just cut him out of your life forever. You need to feel and be safe in your own home.

OP well done on leaving & ignoring the messages. I wouldnt trust that he has left the house, the police will go back to your home with you to make sure it's safe. You need to record what he's done. He will come back and cause problems. Get the locks changed asap and every single time he parks outside or knocks on your door report it to the police. I know it's scary, but at least you will be safe. I would also contact Women's Aid for additional practical help. Stay strong you've done the hard bit

Their at their dads till tomorrow I haven't told him yet I'm going to speak to him tomorrow about things. It is hard because he doesn't leave it I've even had his friends drive past and report back my movements thinking their helping and I'm the bitch that has thrown him out for no reason and sleeping with other men.
It's a joke I always feel like no one will believe me . Very stressed about tomorrow right now :-(

he doesn't leave it I've even had his friends drive past and report back my movements thinking their helping

You need to speak to the police and get this documented. There are things they can do to help you, but you need to ask them for that help. You have children, so even if you cannot do it for yourself, please do it for your children.

Is the home in your name? Has he moved in with you rather than it being a joint rental/mortgage?

Good luck today. Who can you get to help you, to back you up?

Good luck today OP. I'd make sure you have your 'talk' with him in a public place & not in your home. Do not be alone with him under any circumstances - if he's getting his friends to follow you and telling others that you are sleeping around, these are massive red flags & you need to keep yourself & DC safe. Just to reiterate pp, report everything to police, they are used to dealing with this sort of thing and should be supportive. Also contact Women's aid/refuge.

Hi confused, well done for getting out. Your number 1 priority is to keep yourself and your kids safe, so if that means staying somewhere else then do it.

When the locks are changed, the police have visited him to deliver a restraining order, you've got your support network in place, then go home if you feel safe.

I'd see a GP too, just to get support for how anxious and worried you are, just telling someone who is impartial and in person can help.

OP how is it going?