Change in DH behaviour

[Inthebeergarden]

Been with DH for many years, 3 Dc and lucky enough to be a SAHM. He has always done his own thing and so have I, different hobbies, friends and interests.
Our levels of intimacy have always been up and down especially when the DC were younger.
Over the last six months he has really been pushing for more romance, affection and intimacy. This is all really nice but seems to be a massive change and I don't know how to handle it. Has anyone else had any experience of this? I am so used to curling up on the sofa with a book but now he wants to leap into bed at any given opportunity-why?

He's home. I welcomed him at the door in a pretty dress with a long kiss, and a cold glass of beer in the garden.

Thank you to you all for your advice and making me realise what I have.

I LOVE this thread, and its happy ending!

Many, many more years of marital bliss to you and Mr Beergarden.

Update- we had a lovely evening and night.

I'm really looking forward to a long bank holiday weekend with my DH and I can't contain my excitement about our two nights alone together the following weekend!

Go beergarden.....

This thread has made me smile

Thank you Yoksha.

It has made me smile as well and I hope my DH is at work smiling as I type. He should be!!!

Just a few tips from my online friends have really helped me realise how lucky and I am. Thank you all.

Hi 'Inthebeergarden'! I'm adding to this thread as I feel in the same position as you at the moment, opposite way round though as I was the one who made the first move to regain some intimacy in our marriage!

This was a few months back, after years of living more or less separate lives in the same house co-parenting, more like housemates than partners.

It was slightly awkward at first, dh did respond to my gradually instigating kisses, hand holding etc but self consciously. Now though, he instigates about as much as I do, and it would now feel weird NOT to have a cuddle on the sofa/kiss goodbye & goodnight/hold hands etc.

He's also talking to me a lot more, and it just feels really nice. I look back on all the years when we weren't close and think 'What a shame', it just needed one of us to be brave enough to instigate as we still love and fancy each other, we'd just drifted apart.

And I know what you mean about feeling teenage and 'first date like', it's a weird feeling but nicely weird!

So pleased for you.

Hi WestEnd, that has been the only negative really about the whole thing. The fact that we have wasted time when we have been closer.

Unlike yourself I only woke up to all of this Yesterday with help from everyone on here and it has been a very intense feeling emotionally and physically. Without giving TMI last night was the best night ever.

I hope that it is not too much too soon but I will worry about that when/if it happens. At the moment I am just tingling all over with that weird nice feeling.

Enjoy it! I'm looking forward to this Bank Holiday weekend actually. We're going out for lunch today and he's suggested we meet up where he plays tennis for a few drinks after his game tomorrow. That wouldn't normally happen, he'd just come home and be glued to the TV watching sport normally!

The kids (teenagers) are busy with friends all weekend so we'll have some time.

Sex isn't as regular yet as I'd like, but at least it's happening sometimes as opposed to hardly ever! Tends to still be me who instigates that, as the kids tend to stay up later than us now and he's worried they'll hear us. I know they won't, he's more paranoid than me though! We're going to have a weekend away soon, so that should help.