Have you 'Let yourself go?'

[PregnantGrrrl]

It dawned on me this morning that i really have. DS is coming up for 9mths, i'm pregnant and started back to work Monday.

My bikini line looks like a lawnmower would do the trick (how did that happen?!) my legs are stubbly, i can't recall the last time i straightened my hair...

I could do with a soak tonight i think (and a shave!)

i don't think straightening hair is a measure of self esteem..is it

i think you could be let off just this once....

No, I haven't let myself go because I enjoy looking good. To me, it's equivalent to feeling good. I like personal grooming and I need to keep fit to maintain my blood pressure without medications, so I make time for this in my life.

But you have a nine month old AND you're pregnant?

Yeah, I had my head down the pan at lot in early pregnancy.

Not a good look.

just feel like a grim old bag lady at the moment! bit of grooming might be called for tonight- if i can stay awake long enough.

no, i havent - my body let its self go, but thats not me, thats just having kids for you

but i always do my hair, put my make up on, dress nicely.

not just for DP for me too,

but your pregnant - i always looked like shit at the beginning of my pregnancies - you are expected to! lol

I have let myself go weight-wise I suppose, but I never really went in for minge topiary in the first place, so that wouldn't really count for me. Always been a natural gal in that department.

hey.. you may be down at the moment, but you really cant have let yourself go that much if your pregnant again !!!!know what i mean!!!
Go and relax in a nice bubbly bath, shave your legs etc, and then dry and straighten your hair... make yourself fell like a million dollars, but most of all do something for yourself tonight, get that feel good factor feeling back.....
Your just having an off day, no wonder one at 9mnths and one on the way.... relax..

Go through phases of this. I suppose the key thing is to do something about it when you think about it.
Booked a haircut for tomorrow after reading a thread on here a few days ago taking the piss out of people who don't have the time to get their hair cut. (I'm just too busy to notice it needs sorting to be honest - I rarely look in a mirror - and that applies to alot of things.)
Having dh onside helps, though. He gave me clothes at Christmas and vouchers for more clothes for my birthday. He's also covering for me so I can go to a pampering evening at ds1's school next week. And last month he took me shoe shopping because my (only pair) shoes were falling to pieces.

God, I know what you mean, adn I don't have the very good excuse you've got - ie being pregnant!

I find it just takes so much time and effort and I do let it slip sometimes.

I'm not great at shaving my legs esp in the winter - who's gonna see?

BUT having said that I do feel so much better when I have
-done my hair
-put a leetle bit of make up on

• Shaved legs/pits

-thought about clothes and not just chucked on any old thing

Don't be too hard on yourself. A lot of people let themselves go now and again, and they don't have the excuse of a 9mo and a pregnancy! Your dh can't find it that bad if you're pregnant again so soon!

It will make you feel much better to pamper yourself a bit though - go for it!

No you haven't!

I had a similar feeling when DS was 11-12 mths oldand hey, I never really had anything to let go of (the eternal eternal student me)

Pamper yourself tonight sweetie, let DH/P cope with DS for the evening then emerge like the godess you are.

No I haven't but to be honest thats more for me than for him. I think that if you look you feel good.

I've always been a fat bastard.

lol

I've got a 2.3 year old and I'm pg with second. I work 3 days a week and for these days I manage to look almost human! The other 4 days my poor Dh must think I've left him and replaced myself with a swamp monster - minging does not cover it most of the time. I am suitably !

ok.

your baby is very little

you are pg again

DON'T be hard on yourself here

there will be plenty of time for straightened hair and so forth.

don't worry

oh and I think that if you feel good you tend to look good

its a personal thing, isn't it? for some people looks are very important to them. for others they are just not so much. I'd rather spend an hour reading than waxing a bikini line that no one else, save my lovely dp, is actually going to see.

Know what you mean PGrrl. But you'll feel better after a bit of looking after yourself tonight.

I have one night a week which I do all this malarky. Makes me feel a bit more 'me' and a bit less 'mummy'.

'kinell, sweetie, I looked like cr*p when both my babies were nine months old, and when I was in early pregnancy - heaven alone knows what I'd have looked like if I'd combined the two.

I look faintly presentable now only because my children are three and six.

It's all I can do to brush my hair and teeth each day. I look pretty bad I must say, with a 23 month od and four weeks off giving birth to DC2. In fact, since having DS nearly two years ago, I've never really looked good.

I was in town today and there were all these svelte, groomed girls in their lovely spring colour clothes, sleek hair and manicured hands. I schlepped along in my dingy maternity wear and felt a bit inadequate. But I guess it'll get better and I don't really want to worry about chipping a nail if I'm getting stuck into play-doh! I'd love to look great though it's not easy.

I hate being as heavy as I am, which is the heaviest that I've ever been, though consistent for the last two years !!!

but I do try and make the best of what I've got, always "put me face on" before I exit the door !!!

Try to wear pretty matching underwear
(as well as M & S mgic Knickers !!)

I also work as a part time sports coach

Run my own business...and have a couple of new 'projects' on the go

manage a couple of properties (holiday lets etc)

...as well as taking majority of responsibility for DS (6) and DD (4)...

Mentally I feel more stimulated than I've ever felt.....physically I feel F*** !!!!!!

When my babies were little I certainly let myself go - well, more the case of myself running away screaming while I wasn't paying attention. Now my babes are teenagers I have got myself back. I know it seems like forever, but the babystage isn't the beginning of the rest of your life, it's a very definite 'time out'. One day you will have time and emotional space to look after yourself, and have good taste, and maybe a bit more money, and a bunch of teens to swop makeup and hair straighteners with. AND you will still be young enough to look fab - I mean, Liz Hurley is in her 40's! So chin up girls - the good times are yet to roll

Does staying in pjs and hiding in bed consitute letting yourself go?

If so, darling I am so gone!

I'm fat, ugly and have body hair to riva; Fatima Whitbread's.

I'm past the point of help now tbh. Well, unless I had extensive surgery.

I've never had a lot to let go.