Long back story but I left my violent and abusive exH 18 months ago.
He has had regular access with the DC during this time amd with the help of SS, HV etc it has been going ok for the most part.
He stopped paying maintenance last year so I went through CMS. Due to thw amount he had to pay me he decided he wanted to have the DC 3 nights a week so he could pay less. Meaning I have to see him 6 days a week for drop offs/pick ups.
His violent behaviour has begun to escalate again and I was assaulted in front of the children on saturday. The police are involved but he has not been arrested yet.
I have told the police and my HV that I no longer want him to have access to the children and they have told me I am well within my rights to stop it. I have an appointment with my solicitor on Thursday to get something put down on paper.
My question is...he is supposed to be having the children tonight. He decided at the weekend he will no longer be collecting them and that I have to drop them off, which I'm obviously not going to do. So....do I tell him in advance that he is not having them and potentially spark his rage? Or do I lock all windows and doors, shut curtains and wait till he realises I'm not dropping them off, comes to my house shouting and screaming, then call 999?