What extra nice things do you do for your partner?

[GreenHairDontCare]

Dh (who is lovely) is currently working up to 60hrs pw. I'm a SAHM with all kids at school.

I'm trying to make him feel really cherished and appreciated and I'd be grateful for any suggestions, big or small.

I currently make him endless cups of tea when he's wfh. I make his sandwiches for the office and like to surprise him with different fillings he likes (when he does them himself it's always cheese salad!).

I'm doing all the housework and have taken over 'his' jobs like the garden and bins etc. Making sure he's always got time to do something for himself each day even if it's only half an hour in the guitar.

What else could I do? It needs to be free or cheap or it won't count, he's stressed about money hence the overtime.

[TheNaze73]

I was thinking the same joannegrady

A night out with his friends would be fantastic

[RebornSlippy]

pmsl @ user Jesus, you're wound tight today!

[Teddy6767]

I give mine a back rub most evenings which he absolutely loves as he's often very stressed with work etc. I'll also do little things like get him his favourite chocolate bar for when he gets home, or cook him his favourite meal

[AndNoneForGretchenWieners]

Sounds daft but I do themed dinners. So one week we may have a German night, with German food and beer. Another week we might have Italian night, or American, or Caribbean.

[GreenHairDontCare]

Sending him off for a night out is a great idea, he's well overdue for one.

[user1479302027]

Just to chip in op - the best thing my dw can do to make me happy is to be happy herself, so keep up the good work with the mh. Not always the easiest task! Getting home to a nice reception from the family (ie, when I walk in the kids shout' daddy') and maybe a nice meal and a bottle of something I like is actually the surprise I like best. Love messages in lunch box to bring a smile at inappropriate times. I suppose it's the little stuff that's the most touching. You're 99% there already!

[RebornSlippy]

Yes a night out with his friends would be perfect. Get on to his mates and sort it!

[CesareBorgiasUnicornMask]

DH and I write each other messages in the steam on the shower door that then hang around because we don't wipe it down often enough. Sometimes we give each other an hour or so of 'fully serviced' activity of choice - usually gaming for him, reading for me, and the other one is on-call to provide cuppas/ snacks as and when required, and crucially to keep DS entertained.

[LellyMcKelly]

A full body massage.

[TweedAddict]

I sent my husband those marsh mellows with your photos on to work. He loved them, but then he is as sloppy as me! I also write notes in his diary, or put a cd in the car on a special song so it's on when gets in. Always texting and phoning. Getting each other little presents, nothing too much just the odd shirt/cd/chocolate. I write messages in his food or send him balloons too. Or I tie something to the dog collar, I've had his watch engraved-not for anything other then just because. Or I'll give his car a really good clean, I make sure he has little things like wipes/tissues/pain kilers in the car/change etc . Clean his work shoes, or get him a new pen/notebook.

There's loads more, and he does the sane for me. Or friends like we are sickening but we are happy and loved up

[Ellisandra]

Even though he's your husband so you hopefully know him pretty well if you haven't read about "5 Love Languages" it's worth a look, and though he's stressed for time right now, maybe doing the quiz together. It helps you to understand how each person likes to show love, and receive it. I forget the details, but it's things like, some people feel loved when their partner takes on a job (act of service) whereas others prefer the gestures like heart sandwiches.

See me, first time I'd think "wtf? Well, he's trying to be nice and that itself is nice, but I like my crusts and I hope this is the last time he dicks with my sandwich..."

As money is a pressure right now, things I would do are:

• a massive eBay clearout (maybe as a surprise - though not a surprise with his stuff ) so you can say "tah dah! We have £100!"
  

• go to the MSE website and have the helpful people there ruthlessly comb through your household budget. One thing you have (I think?) is time - so you can really throw yourself into that. If my partner said "I've saved us £10 a month every month" I'd feel the love far more than I would over a post it note in my lunch box!

[MissPickles]

A massage?