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Am I wrong?

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Laurenmac145 · 20/05/2017 19:31

Please please don't judge me, Because I need to get this out and some opinions.

I fell pregnant with my fiancè of 2 years and knew instantly that I had to terminate the pregnancy. Our relationship had been rocky to say the least. We have a son together and he has a child from a previous relationship... obviously this was an absolutely awful decision to make, but I guess in a way it was the right thing for the kids in the long run. I suffered with hyperemesis in pregnancy and already started getting bad (that's how I found out this time)
My partner promised to support me and be there for me. Afterall this was being prevented with birth control and was no way the plan...
I won't go into all the detail, but basically he started getting colder and colder with me. To the point I was left to pass the pregnancy alone and scared. He refused to be there for me and chose to go to work instead, stating it was more important.

Now I am so upset, I want to leave the relationship but I don't know how! He won't let me grieve, he won't let me rest, he just tells me it's nothing and he doesn't care. He stayed out late the day I went through it all on my own. And the day after too. He verbally abuses me to the point I start believing I've done something wrong!! I'm not wrong am I?
Sorry this doesn't make much sense, I'm really upset and gobsmacked at the lack of support. I have no job and no friends or family here. Truly isolated! How would I go about leaving such an awful person with kids involved?

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 20/05/2017 19:55

Where are you, are you in the UK or overseas?

If you are in the UK Womens Aid can and will help you and your son leave this callous individual.

Laurenmac145 · 20/05/2017 20:54

I'm in the UK, yes x

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RunRabbitRunRabbit · 20/05/2017 20:57

It depends on your living arrangements. Are you married now? Property rented or owned? Whose name is it in? Could you move to be with your family and friends and get a job?

Laurenmac145 · 20/05/2017 21:03

Private rental but it's a joint tenancy unfortunately. I've been told if I leave then I've made myself intentionally homeless. Is there a way to get him off the tenancy? We're not married - thankfully!

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MariafromMalmo · 20/05/2017 21:16

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