Dear All!
I am new here and could really do with some advice. Like a fool, I am in a very dysfunctional relationship that I am not getting anything out of - Let's call him Mr Expensive - to this man, everything is expensive, you cannot go shopping with him, he does not like to spend any money "because everything is so expensive". I buy all the groceries, I cook every day the only things which he buys are "his" cereals, olives and cheese from his country.
Two days ago was my birthday and it was a special day for me as I have gone through a lot in the past few years. Anyway, he asked me where I wanted to go for dinner, I told him that I did not mind, he could choose where to take me.
On the morning of my birthday, I expected at least a card from him, nothing and he sent me flowers on WhatsApp. The arrangements were that we would attend a show together at the ExCel and then go to the restaurant after the show, on our way to the restaurant - he suggested that we gatecrash an event which we were not registered for and get free drinks. We ended up not going to the restaurant. What hurts most is that he could not even bother to get me a birthday card - this was my first birthday together.
On the way home, I was so upset that I confronted him for sending me flowers on WhatsApp instead of buying me flowers. This is not a young person, this man is in his late 40s. As soon as we arrived back at home, I went straight to bed. He went to Tesco Express and got me flowers at around 11 pm. His own birthday is coming up in a few months, It was my plans to make it special for him. Why would he not do it for me?
Yesterday, I wanted to put the whole episode behind us, however, he told me that he had to go and visit his friend's kids as she was out of the country. He was going to buy them KFC and then come back. I sent him a text at 9 pm, asking when he would be back. He responded that he "did not know", they were eating in a restaurant, at 11 pm, he sent to me a text that he was spending the night there because it was too late to ride his bike back.
Am I being paranoid or jealous? His friend has three children, two boys aged 12 and 17 and a 19 years old daughter.
As I typed this, he has not returned back home, the distance between his friend's house and home is just three miles. I feel like a complete fool and I want to be out of this mess!