Hello. I'm new here. Need to talk ;-(

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Well. I'm in relationship for nearly 12 years now. It never was easy...
He is 2 years younger than me and we have most precious daughter.
I don't really know where to start.
My soul is aching. Because I put so much into this relationship and I've been treated like a piece of crap.
I'm not an angel and I have a fair share in arguments. But I feel financially and emotionally abused. Here is why...
Financially - well he haven't been working for 6 years and been spending money on weed. A lot of money. To the point that we couldn't pay rent and have been evicted. I had words. Plenty of them. I cried, I shouted and I gave ultimatums. Nothing seem to work.
He has a bit of a past - have been homeless as a teenager, he also self harmed. But he also lies. Especially about money.

Emotionally - he blames me for everything. In every argument. I'm always the bad one. He calls me names. All sorts. He tells me he hates my guts.

He also hit me on two occasions, but I forgave.

Our sex life is non existent as he doesn't sleep in bed since 2011.

Am I a mug for being in relationship with him?

I'll always will. As well as myself. My mental health suffers atm...

He is angry that you have had the courage to end his lazy ways!

Welcome to the start of your new life. And happy birthday for next week.

Thank you. X
Just had the nurse who came and changed my dressing. I cried the river, she said to get in touch with doctors for some help as well

Absolutely GP for some help.
You also need some support from Womens Aid.
Give them a call 0808 2000 247

You will feel better once he is gone. It is easier to manage alone than with someone who makes life harder.

Please don't take him back; he's assaulted you, does not work and spends money on weed; what a catch, not, surely you can do better than this dead beat.

Poor him, woman beater!

Give him a very short deadline in which to move out and stick to it. Do see your GP and access the help detailed already. Do you have local support?

He's sounds an absolute drain on every one of your resources, emotional, financial and physical well being. And if you ever feel uncertain consider how it would be for yours child to continue to live with such a horrible man.

Best wishes.

Thank you NMs. Had to get it out of my chest. Your replies make me stronger and stronger.