Hi, for some time my H and I haven't been happy. But, no arguments etc just the usual stresses. He works a lot of shifts so is very rarely home. Last week he said he wasn't happy etc stating all his concerns lack of sex, we don't talk, do anything as a couple and he feels we live separate life's etc. All true as he is rarely at home or if he is he is tired! Anyway he also told me he had been playing an online word game and they got messaging each other via Facebook ...she is in Australia! This has gone on for 5 weeks now. She is Single and initially they flirted a little, then she pulled back and it was normal chat ...she shares things going on in her life etc, showing him her paintings etc. After a few weeks he asked her where they were going...as he had strong feelings for her and how wonderful, beautiful she was! She replied that he should make the effort and talk to me to sort things out and that the possibility of anything between them was absurd!! Anyway he apologised to her and said he had been confused, he said if she wanted him to stop messaging her he would. But, she replied no need and they still text each other on day to day things. Initially he wouldn't show me the texts as he was embarrassed, but he relented in the end. He was crying saying how embarrassed he was and states he won't delete her as a friend as it is platonic, she isn't interested in him( but she must be flattered) she is no oil painting!! He also doesn't have any friends...he is anti-social, doesn't go out, doesn't really do a lot online etc. He states it helps break his night up etc with the odd text back and forth. I gave an ultimatum and he was adamant he would not be told to delete her. The texts are innocent but my concern is it will grow and feelings will develop further, especially sharing concerns, worries etc,. He says he doesn't have any of the feelings he had for her initially when she told him it was absurd it brought him back to reality and he realised it was me he loved and wants us to sort out the rut we are in. So what do I do, I'm confused and don't know how to move forward? Do I message her telling her to stop texting him, or do I tell him absolutely not or am I being overly sensitive. He said (after I demanded ) that I can check the messages they send to each other if it makes me feel better. Help!!