I was nosey today and now i wish i hadn't been..........

[juicychops]

Last night me and ds stayed at my dp's sisters for the night as she is away and we was house sitting for her.

Anyway, dp went to work this morning and i was looking for toys for ds to play with. (my dp has 3 boys 8-13 so there are old toys scattered around)

Looked in a cupboard and found a box of photos. I was nosey and looked at a few. They were of dp and his family when he was little and i thought 'ahh' and looked at a few more.

Came across a load of him and his wife (who he has been seperated from for a couple of years now) on their wedding day dancing and kissing

Now i have the images stuck in my head!

i had never seen photos of her before and now i feel crappy!

i know it is my own fault but feel horrible now. It just felt really weird seeing him so happy with his wife

he's not with her for a reason.

they may have been happy on their wedding day but clearly that happiness didn't last.

he's with you now so put the photos out of your mind and concentrate on the present and the future.

Aw shame. It will pass. Your curiosity and your sick feelings are natural. I remember feeling like that many, many, many years back when I saw holiday photos of my DP with a girl he met there. Give yourself time and you'll see that knowing what you know makes not a whiff of difference.

paddlechick is right. He might have been happy then but that ended and hes with you now. I know you must feel a bit crappy but try to put it out your mind.

I would try and think about old relationships you've had and how photos from those would look. They are firmly in the past for you and that's how it is for dp.

We all, well most of us, have a 'past' but that is not what's important. What matters is the here and now and he is with you - not his ex.

Thanks, yeah i know. he hates her now. It was just a shock

juicychops, there are probably images of you in the past that you wouldn't like him to see either but no-one was there with a camera!

Yeah i suppose so. Il have to get some nice photos of me and dp to look at when im feeling poo

Haven't even got one of dp and we have been together over a year!

do you think my dp would be angry at me for being nosey if i told him?

He really would have no reason to be annoyed as far as I can see, it's not like you hired a private detective. All you did was look at some photos which weren't under lock and key after all.

Ooooh, I done this a couple of months ago!!
Was helping DP pack and he told me he was going to go through box of pics and throw all ones of her out (he is lazy git and hadn't bothered before). I told him to wait and see if his ds wanted any (he lives with us).
Anyway, he went out for a while and I stayed to keep packing..........
I had convinced myself that she was an ugly horrible troll and they were miserable, duh!
She was ok looking and they looked really happy!
Mega shock, but he also hates her now, but still a mini shock to the system!
Just try and put it out your mind, he's definetly not with the ex for a reason.