How do i trust him again??

[Bones2017]

So, I have another thread 'husband left and I have no closure'

He left early December after me discovering an EA. since Easter, he's been making all the right noises. He's not home. We've decided to hold the divorce for a while, make some us plans & reconnect. Then decide by autumn what we want.

But, every time he leaves here, I'm checking if he's online on whats app. Then I'm checking her status. That's got to be natural right? Do I just roll with it and see how things go?? Or do I ask him outright if it's over? I don't want to push him away as we're making good progress. Apart from my own demons I have no reason to think she's still around.

You need answers from him. I probably told you previously but my DH cheated on me, left me and the kids saying he didn't love me and the usual bullshit script. I found out via snooping and he came crawling back. This was over 3 years ago and in that whole time the trust did come back but not fully as I was occasionally checking his phone. 3 years later he was at it again - another emotional affair. He's now looking for another job and I've allowed him to stay. We biker almost every day (because of me - however he has caused this by what he has done) and I'm miserable because I don't know a life without him. My mental health is awful now, self esteem is shot, I've become boring and only think about OW/what he's done. I constantly stalk OW on social media and I still check his phone. It's a miserable life to live - I advise u to cut him out and never look back but I only know how hard it is (especially when you have DC and financial commitments). Life is a bitch and only we can change it. I know full well I now need professional help and u might do too x