Hi all,
I'm a regular but have nc'd for this.
My D(?)H just told me he is "this close" to getting a divorce, he can't bear this anymore, we are just strangers and what's the point of keeping it going.
I sat through his tirade stunned, saddened and relieved all at once.
I honestly don't know what to do. We've been married nearly 9 years, 3 DC (eldest is 8). We haven't had sex in about 4 years. H never wanted our third DC and actually suggested an abortion when we found out (it was unplanned) and I think things went downhill from then on.
Honestly I don't know if I still love him. Probably not. I don't find him physically attractive, and he has become very shouty and verbally aggressive over the years. He accuses me of being an 'ice queen' and never showing any affection or emotions, basically saying now that I've got my DC I don't need him anymore.
I'm currently a SAHM after having been made redundant about 5 years ago. I had been planning to part time study again for a career change, but obviously that would take a long time.
If we separated, I'd have to find a job straight away, wouldn't I? I have no idea how any of that works, the financial and legal side I mean. I think if I'm honest that, and the DC, is what has prevented me from taking any steps towards separation so far. I won't deny I have a financially comfortable life and I'm scared of what it would be like on my own.
I don't even know what kind of advice I'm after 
. But if anyone is there please talk to me.