how to tell my husband I bought a caravan using my own money.

[Mojochi]

I was left some money by a relative. My son is Autistic and we always talked about buying a motorhome and going around Britain and Scotland thinking that my son would love and it would be great way of getting to see things. We rented one for a week last year and it was a disaster for various reasons on of which was the toilet! Anyway we have discussed other options such as buying a day van and a towing van or a static which I thought was the better option. Well I found this great van in a beatiful location and I bought it using my own money, but I didn't tell my husband as he was away working, I know he will love it it is in ideal location that we still go to the places we want but with no major issues for my son. The question is how do I tell him?

Oh gosh, I think your going to struggle to make it seem like a good thing that you did it without telling him. Unless he has a birthday in the next few days and it can be presented as a lovely gift!

Just tell him you saw it got over excited paniked it would go and bought it not as if it will be a total surprise you have been talking about it, btw i don't think an inheritence from your relative is family money ,

Is it a static you have bought? You do realise about all the charges if you want to move or sell it don't you?

I'd go ballistic in his shoes.

If we go by the usual MN motto that all money is family money, then you should have discussed it with him. How would you feel if he had done this without discussing it with you? We're not talking Aunt Edna has left me £500 so I'm going to treat myself to something, we're talking about unilaterally deciding on something major for the family.

If you know he will love it, why do you need to ask us how to tell him? Suggests to me you think he might not...

However you present it, it won't disguise the fact that you didn't discuss it beforehand. There's nothing in your post that suggests that discussing the purchase was even on your radar.

I would love hubby more than I do now if he surprised me with that.
Also rent it out to family and friends when you are not using it to cover site fees