ok so we have discussed getting married but the other half won't compromise on anything . i noticed that my partner wanted everything to accommodate their family even down to i couldnt take my dogs as my partners nephew didnt like dogs. but after inheriting some money last year i tried discussing it again ,again my partner would not compromise ,but then i approached the subject of cost as my partner was going on about inviting all their family which is huge with cousins,second cousins even fourth cousins ,so i asked who was paying " you can you got the money" was my partners answer .ok my partner doesnt work like me due to disability ,but to expect that i'm going to pay for everything out of my inheritance that i have put in savings accounts for when i retire and will need it . and i have only a few family members . i dont even like some of my partners family members ,who have insulted me only a few weeks ago.
so i have said its a romantic wedding at gretna green just us and two witness's or forget it. im sorry if i sound harsh but not once when discussing getting married has my partner considered what i would like its all about their family,must be a cheap hotel for the family ,must have family rooms. cant take my dogs a nephew dont like dogs. etc etc oh when we got engaged my partners mother was with me on a shopping trip i happen to be looking at engagement rings in a shop window she railroaded me inside "just to get measured" but heavily persuaded me to try a ring on,next thing i know shes asking the assistant if she can put a deposit down but then brought it saying my partner could pay her back. many times ive told my partner i do not see this ring as a engagement ring as we did not choose it together the mother did.